Your Miracle Is Right Around the Corner

Around the corner

When I woke up this morning, I started to meditate.  I heard the small voice of God speaking. It’s amazing how God’s presence can change our perspective and change our entire day.  Not to get too personal, but as I was preparing breakfast this morning, I felt the visitation of God.  It was very strong.

First, God wants us to “COMMAND” our mornings. Take time to pray, meditate, exercise, journal, or self-reflect.  These strategies can help “set” the temperament for our entire day.  Daily, it’s imperative that we honor God by carving out time to converse with Him. When we fail to command our mornings by honoring God, distractions from the enemy can seep into our spirit causing physical and spiritual disruptions.  When we pray, we’re equipping ourselves to withstand the blows of the enemy.  Get rooted in the word when driving to work, while drinking coffee, or while sitting in bed aimlessly.  Every moment that we invite God in, we willfully build a spiritual bridge that allows us to tap into God’s purpose for our lives.  His word daily is food to our souls and nourishment for our bodies.

Next, God doesn’t want us to compromise.  We must stand strong, and we cannot compromise our well-being in this season.  Stay focus; stay mentally healthy; stress-free, and guilt-free. I must be honest; I use to compromise myself for the sake of fitting in with others.  But as I continually grow in Christ, God reminds me to stand on His word as a guide for my life as noted in Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV) where it is written that God has a plan for our lives.  It’s not to harm us, but these plans are to prosper us so that we’ll have hope as He guides and directs us into our future.  Therefore, we must stop compromising our peace.  Remember, God doesn’t function in dysfunction.  He’s a man of order. That’s why it’s important that we build a relationship with God and that we converse with Him daily as we “Command Our Mornings.”

Then, God wants us to trust HIM!!!  I believe that God’s building our FAITH in this season.  He’s building our faith with various test and trials.  Through these various test and trails, God is causing us to exercise our faith and depend totally on him.  For it is written in Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV), “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” 

Finally, God’s working a miracle in our lives.  Let’s stay strong and not sway from God when situations start to look weary.  Remember, God is watching during the test; he’s just quiet as He conducts an evaluation of our hearts and reactions to see if we’re walking by “faith” or walking by “sight”.

Sincerely,

~ShameNoMore

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My Testimony: SHAME NO MORE

Good Morning Ladies,

I am thankful today that “ONE” year ago God allowed me to march across a stage after a six year fight to obtain my doctoral degree.  It was a fight ladies.  Many times I wanted to give up, But God…  He’s a way maker, a soother, a peacemaker, and a healer.

At one moment in time, I literally thought that I was having a stroke because of too much stress.  I was flat on my back at the hospital…But God.  So, I MUST give him the praise because being a single mom, a divorcee, a woman who had a child at 16yrs old…many thought I wouldn’t make it.  They had written me off for life.  Therefore, don’t judge me if you don’t know my [whole story or the real story].  I’ve learned in life that many people think you have it made when you’ve arrived by society’s standards…(SMH).  Like my grandma would say, “Chile live a little longer.”

Therefore, live ladies.  Write that book like me.  Complete your dreams; you can do it.  Fight to the end; it’s possible.   Even when people talk about you, belittle you, don’t promote you, attempt to hinder your growth, lie on you, or walk away from you…it’s for a purpose and for your good.   That’s why I started my group SHAME NO MORE because I’m truly overcoming all the SHAME [obstacles] that was attempting to hold me back in life [big or little]…and I truly want the same for you.  ~Give Him the Praise & Let’s Start a New Chapter

Sip, Reflect & Let’s Talk~Principle #2: Accentuate The Positive

Let us draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith. (Hebrews 10:22, NIV)

Hello Ladies,

Today is a great day, and I’m excited to share Principle #2: Accentuate The Positives from Nicole Saunders “10 Keys To Happiness” article that’s written inside Essences May 2012 issue.  I’ve found this principle to be noteworthy as I mediate and reflect deeply in finding and embracing my own happiness over the next ten weeks.  As I sit on my front porch, I’m thinking about two things: First, how do I fully accentuate my positives in terms of defining my truth as a woman? Second, how do I stop telling my “story” in the words of Iyanla Vanzant and begin to tell my real story.   Saunders (2012) states in Principle #2: Accentuate The Positives:

“People who focus on good past experiences and reinterpret negative ones in a more pleasant light tend to be happier.  “Counting blessings doesn’t mean you have to be naïve,” says Chris Peterson, a psychology professor at the University of Michigan.  The world can be cruel and you shouldn’t deny the terrible things that may have happened, but the world can also be wondrous.  It’s up to you to decide on which truth to dwell.” (p. 133)

Pretty much, Iyana supports a belief like Saunders in her own words as I watched Oprah’s Life Class: the Tour Iyanla Vanzant on Stopping Pain yesterday.  It was a great piece, which allowed me to rethink Principle #2: Accentuate The Positives in terms of what Nicole Saunders was declaring. Iyanla states that you have to stop telling your “own” story and embrace the “truth” in terms of your pain in order to fully heal while finding your happy place. 

At sixteen I became pregnant [that’s my truth].  Yes, I embodied this stigma and understood these words immensely before these words became a hit show Sixteen and Pregnant. I often wondered how a smart girl like me found herself at such a disadvantage so young.  By the grace of God, I was still able to complete my studies by sixteen; I continued to make good grades; I participated in sports, I graduated early from high school, and I even entered college early. I was determined to make it out of that rural area and show myself and the world that that poor decision one fall night would not determine my fate in life.

Over the past couple of years, people have always asked me, how did it feel being a single mom at such an early age?  I have thought about this question often, and I believed to this day that that very unconscionable choice has helped shape who I am today.  After reading and digesting Principle #2 and pondering the words of Iyanla, I said to myself that in order to accentuate the positives, I must first “stop telling my story” and tell my real story.   In hopes of helping my Sisters Healing Against Mental Emotions™ (S.H.A.M.E.) accentuate their positives and tell their truth, I’ve posted the clip below from Oprah’s Life Class: the Tour Iyanla Vanzant on Stopping Pain.

http://www.oprah.com/oprahs-lifeclass/Full-Episode-Oprahs-Lifeclass-the-Tour-with-Iyanla-Vanzant

For some reason, a lot of people think that you set out to be a teen mom.  However,  that mistake for me was about me filling a void deep within looking for love in all the wrong places as a teenager whose father died in a horrible car accident at the hands of a drunk driver.  As a young Christian woman after God’s own heart, my light bulb went off at that very moment and I couldn’t believe how often times we “tell” our story [the way we see it] but we never tell the truth in terms of the root causes that encompass our “true” pain.  So, as I continue to ponder Principle #2: Accentuate The Positives, I will continue to work on “telling” my true story in order to receive full healing in terms of accentuating my positives and living a happy life.

Accentuate your positives and let’s start talking,

~Shamenomore

The Confession of an Abandoned Woman™: S.H.A.M.E.

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This above all: to thine own self be true-Shakespeare

Dear Sisters Healing Against Mental Emotions™:

Abandonment has no SHAME, nor does it care who it hurts.  It is ruthless in its actions, discourses, and mannerisms.  Many women can thankfully say that “Favor Isn’t Fair…” in terms of never having to meet this uncouth “victimizer”.  However, for the women who have experienced this pain at one time or another it is never a good fate or feeling to collide without warning.  At any rate, “abandon” or “abandonment” is a word that many women can associate with be it secretively or openly.  For those of us who have come face-to-face with this victimizer of grief, God wants you to know in Micah 7:8 “Do not gloat over me, my enemy!  Though I have fallen, I will rise.  Though I sit in darkness, the Lord will be my light.” (NIV)

If you’re a Sister Healing Against Mental Emotions™ (S.H.A.M.E.) this time fighting the spirit of abandonment, you must declare today that your circumstances should not determine your future.  God says in Isaiah 40:8 “Grass withers and flowers fade, but the word of our God endures forever.” (TEV) Therefore, even though the enemy has stamped one of these spirits on your chest, it doesn’t mean that you must accept the label and birth one of these forms to life:

~Spousal Abandonment

~Relationship Abandonment

~Parental Abandonment

~Child Abandonment

~Job Abandonment

God is saying that many of you are fearful to enter into healthy relationships in this season be it personal or professional because of abandonment issues hailing from your past.  However, you must set this fear of abandonment free, speak life into your current situation, seek professional help, and most of all find comfort in the words of God.  Your past loss can be overwhelming, yes, but it doesn’t have to paralyze you from living a healthy and fulfilling life.

As women of God, it’s hard to believe sometimes that the time invested in a relationship [that was solid in your mind] has ended because you might have been misled by the other party, or you’ve failed to recognize the handwriting on the wall early-on.  In any case, many of you fall prey into loving others more than you love yourself at times, which can lead to depression and even symptoms of anxiety; and because of this loss, you plant future seeds of fear. That is why God clearly says in Psalm 73:26 “My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the Rock and firm Strength of my heart and my Portion forever.” (AMP)

If this is your story this morning The Confession of an Abandoned Woman™, God wants you to  know that you can seek professional help within your  local community and remember that in 2 Timothy 1:7 “God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline.” (NIV)

Abandon fear today and live joyously,

~Shamenomore