Your Miracle Is Right Around the Corner

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When I woke up this morning, I started to meditate.  I heard the small voice of God speaking. It’s amazing how God’s presence can change our perspective and change our entire day.  Not to get too personal, but as I was preparing breakfast this morning, I felt the visitation of God.  It was very strong.

First, God wants us to “COMMAND” our mornings. Take time to pray, meditate, exercise, journal, or self-reflect.  These strategies can help “set” the temperament for our entire day.  Daily, it’s imperative that we honor God by carving out time to converse with Him. When we fail to command our mornings by honoring God, distractions from the enemy can seep into our spirit causing physical and spiritual disruptions.  When we pray, we’re equipping ourselves to withstand the blows of the enemy.  Get rooted in the word when driving to work, while drinking coffee, or while sitting in bed aimlessly.  Every moment that we invite God in, we willfully build a spiritual bridge that allows us to tap into God’s purpose for our lives.  His word daily is food to our souls and nourishment for our bodies.

Next, God doesn’t want us to compromise.  We must stand strong, and we cannot compromise our well-being in this season.  Stay focus; stay mentally healthy; stress-free, and guilt-free. I must be honest; I use to compromise myself for the sake of fitting in with others.  But as I continually grow in Christ, God reminds me to stand on His word as a guide for my life as noted in Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV) where it is written that God has a plan for our lives.  It’s not to harm us, but these plans are to prosper us so that we’ll have hope as He guides and directs us into our future.  Therefore, we must stop compromising our peace.  Remember, God doesn’t function in dysfunction.  He’s a man of order. That’s why it’s important that we build a relationship with God and that we converse with Him daily as we “Command Our Mornings.”

Then, God wants us to trust HIM!!!  I believe that God’s building our FAITH in this season.  He’s building our faith with various test and trials.  Through these various test and trails, God is causing us to exercise our faith and depend totally on him.  For it is written in Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV), “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” 

Finally, God’s working a miracle in our lives.  Let’s stay strong and not sway from God when situations start to look weary.  Remember, God is watching during the test; he’s just quiet as He conducts an evaluation of our hearts and reactions to see if we’re walking by “faith” or walking by “sight”.

Sincerely,

~ShameNoMore

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Be the Change That You Want to See: S.H.A.M.E.

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Romans 12: 2 (KJV) says, “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”

Good Morning Change Agents,

Knowing who you are and who God has called you to be is a powerful tool.  When you allow others, things, and issues to distract who God has ordained you to be it only manifest hatred and SHAME within you.  Take time to hear from God.  Learn to embrace the real you.  Control the negative flow from your mouth, and don’t let every issue in life cripple your Godly purpose.

PUSH for your future is bright.  As a woman or man of God, you must understand that you’re a role model for your child/children.  When your child/children see you allow abusive behavior(s) in your life, when they see you speak negatively day in and day out, or when they see you accept failure without fighting back and gaining ground, you not only hurt yourself, but you’re hurting your future (AKA child/children) as well.

~ShameNoMore

My Testimony: SHAME NO MORE

Good Morning Ladies,

I am thankful today that “ONE” year ago God allowed me to march across a stage after a six year fight to obtain my doctoral degree.  It was a fight ladies.  Many times I wanted to give up, But God…  He’s a way maker, a soother, a peacemaker, and a healer.

At one moment in time, I literally thought that I was having a stroke because of too much stress.  I was flat on my back at the hospital…But God.  So, I MUST give him the praise because being a single mom, a divorcee, a woman who had a child at 16yrs old…many thought I wouldn’t make it.  They had written me off for life.  Therefore, don’t judge me if you don’t know my [whole story or the real story].  I’ve learned in life that many people think you have it made when you’ve arrived by society’s standards…(SMH).  Like my grandma would say, “Chile live a little longer.”

Therefore, live ladies.  Write that book like me.  Complete your dreams; you can do it.  Fight to the end; it’s possible.   Even when people talk about you, belittle you, don’t promote you, attempt to hinder your growth, lie on you, or walk away from you…it’s for a purpose and for your good.   That’s why I started my group SHAME NO MORE because I’m truly overcoming all the SHAME [obstacles] that was attempting to hold me back in life [big or little]…and I truly want the same for you.  ~Give Him the Praise & Let’s Start a New Chapter

Sip, Reflect & Let’s Talk: It’s Breakthrough Monday

It’s BREAKTHROUGH Monday my Sisters Healing Against Mental Emotions:

A lot of women are suffering from binding spirits.  It’s important that we understand that the DEVIL is a liar be it on our jobs, in our marriages, within our finances, or inside our mindsets.  Therefore, I stand in agreement that you are set free through these scriptures and inspirational words.

“He refreshes my soul. He guides me along the right paths for his name’s sake.”  (Ps. 23:3 NIV)

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“God is not a man, that He should lie. Has He said, and will He not do it?”  (Num 23:19)

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“Do not rejoice over me, my enemy; when I fall, I will arise; when I sit in darkness, the Lord will be a light to me.” (Mic 7:8)

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“Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the bones.” (Prov 16:24)

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“Your light shall break forth like the morning, your healing shall spring forth speedily, and your righteousness shall go before you; the glory of the Lord shall be your rear guard.” (Isa 58:8)

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Have a great BREAKTHROUGH Monday,

~Shamenomore

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Sip, Reflect & Let’s Talk: S.H.A.M.E.

Hello S.H.A.M.E. family,

There are several inspirational words/quotes I would like to share with you today.

T. D. Jakes says, “You know you’re winning when people start to HATE you.  That’s a sign that you’re entering into a NET breaking blessing.”

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Balance is essential to success. Therefore, establish mental & emotional stability and your success will come. ~Shamenomore

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SHAME is an emotion, state of being or condition.  Therefore, change your condition for the good & your emotion and state of being will SHIFT. ~Shamenomore

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Philippians 4:13 NKJV says, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Have a CAN DO SPIRIT today! ~Shamenomore

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Continue to PUSH and have a GET RIGHT FRIDAY!

~Shamenomore

Sip, Reflect, & Let’s Talk: IMPACT Tuesday

Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things in him who strengthens me.” (RSV)

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Hello Ladies:

Get ready to have an IMPACT Tuesday!  Today you’re going to start off with a big IMPACT by clearing out the clutter and Redefining the key points that defines your life.  As you start your day, think about the key aspects that God has placed upon your heart in this season.  As a Sister Healing Against Mental Emotions™ (S.H.A.M.E.), how do you plan to IMPACT your day?

First, God wants you to make an IMPACT on your life.  How can you do this?  You can start by making a list of pros/cons that’s holding you back.  Next, you can start to rank this list from most important to least important.  If it’s not important, then maybe you’ll need to shift your priorities so your IMPACT can create a healthier you.  Then, you can create a list and assign realistic dates of completion so you can PUSH forward. According to Hebrews 10:22 “Let us draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith.” (NIV)

Second, God wants you to make an IMPACT in another person’s life.  How can you do this?  As for me, I like to allow God’s spirit to move me.  Therefore, pray, seek wisdom and allow him to direct your heart.  Finally, when the spirit says MOVE, MOVE!

Third, God wants you to REDEFINE your boundaries.  Therefore, check the boundaries in which you’ve set in your personal and professional life.  Are these healthy boundaries?  If not, then it’s time for you to set BOUNDARIES that addresses the issues that are causing you to lose sight of your goals.  It’s important that we as sisters live healthy lives; therefore, if you allow yourself to establish boundaries that define positivity, then you’re more likely to create a more peaceful environment for you to hear and interact with God.  Remember, Proverbs 3:6 states, “In everything you do, put God first, and he will direct you and crown your efforts with success.” (TLB)

Sisterly Love,

~Shamenomore

A Shifting of Change: (S.H.A.M.E.)

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Psalm 46: 10 He says, “Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.”

Hello Sisters Healing Against Mental Emotions(S.H.A.M.E.):

I know it’s been a while since anyone has last heard from me, but sometimes words take time to formulate when hearing from God.  Over the last several weeks, I have witness various sisters undergoing numerous changes in their lives be it positive or negative.  Change is defined by dictionary.com as (2012) “to transform or convert.”  As I continue to grow spiritually, I’ve come to understand that change is needed in an effort to shift gears when God is moving in one’s life.  Romans 12:2 states, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is —his good, pleasing and perfect will.” (NIV) Therefore, as I continue to journey while accepting change without choice or discourse, I believe in my heart that in order to embrace change fully, I must conform without reservations and allow God to use me as He sees fit.

First, I must conform to God’s plan wholeheartedly without backlash.  I must admit, it’s hard to conform to change when life feels like a twenty foot tsunami raging out of control.  What I’ve found is that I cannot limit God, cut a deal, or even rationalize as to why [this is happening or that is happening].  Nonetheless, it’s amazing how I always seem to come back to one analysis and that is He knows best in terms of my life.  Even when I do not understand why major shifts happen, why certain deviations take shape, or why sorrowful situations occur to good people…one thing is certain, He’s working it out behind closed doors. According to 1 John 5:4 “Every child of God can defeat the world, and our faith is what gives us this victory” (CEV).

Second, I’ve found that it’s inevitable to lose some people along the way when shifting to the next level.  I must admit that change hurts, but as a Sister Healing Against Mental Emotions™ (S.H.A.M.E.) daily, I’ve come to understand that some changes just don’t make sense to the carnal eye.  It’s difficult to conceptualize each purpose right away when God closes one door, reopens a past door, or opens a new door.  That’s happened a lot lately in this season and with each closing, reopening, or opening of a new door, I’ve come to understand that a spiritual shift is sure to happen every time.  But, I have learned that when God closes one door even if it hurts and I may not understand it at that time, He always heals the wound and opens another door.

Third, change hurts.  No one enjoys pain, but with growth comes growing pains.  Oftentimes in life, we’ve become complacent. Thus, complacency breeds stagnation.  As women of God, we cannot allow complacency to stop our growing pains in life.  I’ve come to know that in order to birth my vision, I must undergo the “Labor Pains” of life.  Those of us who have had the opportunity to bear children understand these pains quite well.  However, the end reward is sweet when the vision is birth into fruition.

Fourth, change is never consistent.  In life, I’ve come to expect the unexpected.  Therefore, when God is shifting me left, I turn left.  When I feel that he’s shifting me right, I turn right.  However, when I feel that I’m uncertain as to where he’s shifting me, that’s when I press my spiritual breaks, get quiet, adhere to the word, and wait on him. But, during this cycle of postponement is when I become most antsy like a child wanting a piece of candy from the candy jar, but my father is saying, “No, not now!  Just wait a little while longer.”

Finally, life and death is in the power of the tongue.  If I will it, so will it be.  Therefore, speaking positivity is detrimental to living a fulfilling and powerful life. It states in Proverbs 18:21 “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” (NIV)  My unspoken words have just as much power as my spoken words.  Therefore, I think therefore I am.

In any case, as I continue my spiritual journey of reflection and connectivity with God, it’s imperative that I have balance and associate myself with likeminded people in this season.  While waiting patiently, I’ve come to realize that I need to consistently renew my spirit with the edification of His words, while he’s transforming me into a dynamic Sister Healing Against Mental Emotions™ (S.H.A.M.E.).

With sisterly love,

~Shamenomore

It’s Never Too Late: Happy Belated Mother’s Day

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Good Morning My Sisters Healing Against Mental Emotions™ (S.H.A.M.E.):

On Friday, I had the opportunity to attend a Mother’s Day Tea at my son’s school.  For his section, they recited a poem entitled “My Mommy” author unknown. 

My mommy: cuddles me

Kisses me

Hugs me

And misses me!

 

Pampers me

Praises me

And always AMAZES me!

 

Washes my clothes for me

Tickles my toes for me

Giggles and talks with me

And also goes on walks with me.

 

Says sweet dreams to me

Sings sweet songs to me

I’m SO glad she belongs to me!

It warmed my heart to see him recite his little poem that took him several days to remember.  Because of the reminisce of this event, as I drove home this weekend, I had time to reflect on how important it was to instill in my children morally the importance of spending time with family, honoring good friendships, and spending time with God.  I heard someone say this weekend, “You’re blessed to have a mom to spend time with.  If I could turn back the hands of time, I wish my mother could be here today.”  I felt sadden to hear these words mumble from my uncle’s mouth, or to witness how certain people couldn’t go home because of strife. Therefore, as women of God, we should continue to create healthy, positive homes so we can impart in our children according to Exodus 20:12 “Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” (NIV)

Moreover, as we continue to honor our mothers who taught us to become confident women, our sisters who filled in the gaps when our mothers couldn’t be there, the aunts who cuddled and gave kisses, or a complete stranger that God placed in your life just in the nick of time to console you when you were at your lowest; it’s important that we pay tribute to those who cared for us when we couldn’t care for ourselves.  When I think about Psalms 40: 1 “I waited patiently for the Lord;  he turned to me and heard my cry” (NIV) even when I’m feeling tired, stressed, disappointed, or even baffled at times, I’m still honored to be a mom because it’s one of the greatest gifts God could have bestowed upon me.

So, as we continue to push forward this year, I challenge my S.H.A.M.E. sisters to spread our wings and fill in the gap for a young woman who is without a mom or “ANYONE” who needs our support during this season.  Remember, Luke 12:48 states, “But the one who does not know and does things deserving punishment will be beaten with few blows. From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded; and from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked.”  (NIV)

Continue to be a beacon of light,

 

~Shamenomore

Sip, Reflect & Let’s Talk~Principle #2: Accentuate The Positive

Let us draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith. (Hebrews 10:22, NIV)

Hello Ladies,

Today is a great day, and I’m excited to share Principle #2: Accentuate The Positives from Nicole Saunders “10 Keys To Happiness” article that’s written inside Essences May 2012 issue.  I’ve found this principle to be noteworthy as I mediate and reflect deeply in finding and embracing my own happiness over the next ten weeks.  As I sit on my front porch, I’m thinking about two things: First, how do I fully accentuate my positives in terms of defining my truth as a woman? Second, how do I stop telling my “story” in the words of Iyanla Vanzant and begin to tell my real story.   Saunders (2012) states in Principle #2: Accentuate The Positives:

“People who focus on good past experiences and reinterpret negative ones in a more pleasant light tend to be happier.  “Counting blessings doesn’t mean you have to be naïve,” says Chris Peterson, a psychology professor at the University of Michigan.  The world can be cruel and you shouldn’t deny the terrible things that may have happened, but the world can also be wondrous.  It’s up to you to decide on which truth to dwell.” (p. 133)

Pretty much, Iyana supports a belief like Saunders in her own words as I watched Oprah’s Life Class: the Tour Iyanla Vanzant on Stopping Pain yesterday.  It was a great piece, which allowed me to rethink Principle #2: Accentuate The Positives in terms of what Nicole Saunders was declaring. Iyanla states that you have to stop telling your “own” story and embrace the “truth” in terms of your pain in order to fully heal while finding your happy place. 

At sixteen I became pregnant [that’s my truth].  Yes, I embodied this stigma and understood these words immensely before these words became a hit show Sixteen and Pregnant. I often wondered how a smart girl like me found herself at such a disadvantage so young.  By the grace of God, I was still able to complete my studies by sixteen; I continued to make good grades; I participated in sports, I graduated early from high school, and I even entered college early. I was determined to make it out of that rural area and show myself and the world that that poor decision one fall night would not determine my fate in life.

Over the past couple of years, people have always asked me, how did it feel being a single mom at such an early age?  I have thought about this question often, and I believed to this day that that very unconscionable choice has helped shape who I am today.  After reading and digesting Principle #2 and pondering the words of Iyanla, I said to myself that in order to accentuate the positives, I must first “stop telling my story” and tell my real story.   In hopes of helping my Sisters Healing Against Mental Emotions™ (S.H.A.M.E.) accentuate their positives and tell their truth, I’ve posted the clip below from Oprah’s Life Class: the Tour Iyanla Vanzant on Stopping Pain.

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For some reason, a lot of people think that you set out to be a teen mom.  However,  that mistake for me was about me filling a void deep within looking for love in all the wrong places as a teenager whose father died in a horrible car accident at the hands of a drunk driver.  As a young Christian woman after God’s own heart, my light bulb went off at that very moment and I couldn’t believe how often times we “tell” our story [the way we see it] but we never tell the truth in terms of the root causes that encompass our “true” pain.  So, as I continue to ponder Principle #2: Accentuate The Positives, I will continue to work on “telling” my true story in order to receive full healing in terms of accentuating my positives and living a happy life.

Accentuate your positives and let’s start talking,

~Shamenomore