You Are Not Your Past

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You are not your past.  This is your season to live and not hide behind your salty tears.  So often in life, you may hide behind hurt words or shameful acts that hinder your growth or spiritual walk.  In this season,  I believe that God’s calling you to operate on a higher level.  He’s calling me and you to live beyond hurt words, empty promises, or illusions that are holding me and you hostage as I’ve spoken about in my YouTube video below.

I vividly remember the first day I found out I was becoming a mom for the first time at sixteen.  My tears consumed me like raging water that broke free from a vulnerable dam.   My heart ached.  My throat became so enlarged as if I had swallowed an entire apple.  I felt numbed.  I couldn’t move.  I was young.  I was ashamed.

For the longest time, people talked about me.  My classmates, community members, and church members spoke negatively about my condition as if I was the first person ever to have a baby out of wedlock. Through all the negative talk, I distinctively recalled wanting to hear positive words of encouragement, but instead, I was left feeling ostracized.

As I continuously grow in my Christian walk today,  I often think of that difficult time in my life.  I think about the power of words…my words…my actions.  I  contemplate how those very words tarnished my heart, broke bonds and stripped me bare without ever touching me.

Daily, I think about the number of people that suffer from SHAME because they secretively live in the past.  Today, I understand the power of setting myself free. It’s refreshing not living the lies of others.  I won’t lie.  Freedom comes at a price, and sometimes that price is walking away from negative people who attempt to hold you “emotionally hostage” concerning your past.

Therefore, as you read these words, understand that God loves you so much because He is not a ‘respector of persons’. He validates His love to you daily.  He wants you to live a liberating life where you are no longer ashamed of who you are.  I did it and so can you.  How did I do it?  I started by implementing the following proactive strategies:

1.) I was honest with myself.

2.) I forgave myself.

3.) I learned how to love myself.

4.) I set healthy boundaries.

5.) I forgave those who hurt me.

6.) I live my truth.

7.) I pray daily.

8.) I laugh a lot.

9.) I meditate.

10.) I befriend positive people.

I hope these words minister to your heart.  Please share and comment. I always look forward to reading your replies. Or, if you like, drop me a personal message at shamenomore001@gmail.com.

You are not your past,

Leslie a/k/a ShameNoMore

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Your Miracle Is Right Around the Corner

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When I woke up this morning, I started to meditate.  I heard the small voice of God speaking. It’s amazing how God’s presence can change our perspective and change our entire day.  Not to get too personal, but as I was preparing breakfast this morning, I felt the visitation of God.  It was very strong.

First, God wants us to “COMMAND” our mornings. Take time to pray, meditate, exercise, journal, or self-reflect.  These strategies can help “set” the temperament for our entire day.  Daily, it’s imperative that we honor God by carving out time to converse with Him. When we fail to command our mornings by honoring God, distractions from the enemy can seep into our spirit causing physical and spiritual disruptions.  When we pray, we’re equipping ourselves to withstand the blows of the enemy.  Get rooted in the word when driving to work, while drinking coffee, or while sitting in bed aimlessly.  Every moment that we invite God in, we willfully build a spiritual bridge that allows us to tap into God’s purpose for our lives.  His word daily is food to our souls and nourishment for our bodies.

Next, God doesn’t want us to compromise.  We must stand strong, and we cannot compromise our well-being in this season.  Stay focus; stay mentally healthy; stress-free, and guilt-free. I must be honest; I use to compromise myself for the sake of fitting in with others.  But as I continually grow in Christ, God reminds me to stand on His word as a guide for my life as noted in Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV) where it is written that God has a plan for our lives.  It’s not to harm us, but these plans are to prosper us so that we’ll have hope as He guides and directs us into our future.  Therefore, we must stop compromising our peace.  Remember, God doesn’t function in dysfunction.  He’s a man of order. That’s why it’s important that we build a relationship with God and that we converse with Him daily as we “Command Our Mornings.”

Then, God wants us to trust HIM!!!  I believe that God’s building our FAITH in this season.  He’s building our faith with various test and trials.  Through these various test and trails, God is causing us to exercise our faith and depend totally on him.  For it is written in Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV), “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” 

Finally, God’s working a miracle in our lives.  Let’s stay strong and not sway from God when situations start to look weary.  Remember, God is watching during the test; he’s just quiet as He conducts an evaluation of our hearts and reactions to see if we’re walking by “faith” or walking by “sight”.

Sincerely,

~ShameNoMore

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Public Service Announcement: Get Up and Live

Failure Is Never An Option

Hello Ladies,

This is a public service announcement that failure is not an option in this season [i.e. relationship, job, home front, health, etc.].  Therefore, GET UP and LIVE.  If you accept failure in this season of your life, it will breed nothing but SHAME and CONTEMPT.  When failure comes KNOCKING, let God in immediately.  He’s a REDEEMER; He knows how to war spiritually.  As this season comes and goes, just understand that it was your test.  Don’t sulk or give up, but press onward because Mark 9:23 says, “Everything is possible for him who believes.” (NIV)

Have a great Thursday,

~ShameNoMore

It’s Never Too Late: Happy Belated Mother’s Day

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Good Morning My Sisters Healing Against Mental Emotions™ (S.H.A.M.E.):

On Friday, I had the opportunity to attend a Mother’s Day Tea at my son’s school.  For his section, they recited a poem entitled “My Mommy” author unknown. 

My mommy: cuddles me

Kisses me

Hugs me

And misses me!

 

Pampers me

Praises me

And always AMAZES me!

 

Washes my clothes for me

Tickles my toes for me

Giggles and talks with me

And also goes on walks with me.

 

Says sweet dreams to me

Sings sweet songs to me

I’m SO glad she belongs to me!

It warmed my heart to see him recite his little poem that took him several days to remember.  Because of the reminisce of this event, as I drove home this weekend, I had time to reflect on how important it was to instill in my children morally the importance of spending time with family, honoring good friendships, and spending time with God.  I heard someone say this weekend, “You’re blessed to have a mom to spend time with.  If I could turn back the hands of time, I wish my mother could be here today.”  I felt sadden to hear these words mumble from my uncle’s mouth, or to witness how certain people couldn’t go home because of strife. Therefore, as women of God, we should continue to create healthy, positive homes so we can impart in our children according to Exodus 20:12 “Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” (NIV)

Moreover, as we continue to honor our mothers who taught us to become confident women, our sisters who filled in the gaps when our mothers couldn’t be there, the aunts who cuddled and gave kisses, or a complete stranger that God placed in your life just in the nick of time to console you when you were at your lowest; it’s important that we pay tribute to those who cared for us when we couldn’t care for ourselves.  When I think about Psalms 40: 1 “I waited patiently for the Lord;  he turned to me and heard my cry” (NIV) even when I’m feeling tired, stressed, disappointed, or even baffled at times, I’m still honored to be a mom because it’s one of the greatest gifts God could have bestowed upon me.

So, as we continue to push forward this year, I challenge my S.H.A.M.E. sisters to spread our wings and fill in the gap for a young woman who is without a mom or “ANYONE” who needs our support during this season.  Remember, Luke 12:48 states, “But the one who does not know and does things deserving punishment will be beaten with few blows. From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded; and from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked.”  (NIV)

Continue to be a beacon of light,

 

~Shamenomore

The Confession of an Abandoned Woman™: S.H.A.M.E.

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This above all: to thine own self be true-Shakespeare

Dear Sisters Healing Against Mental Emotions™:

Abandonment has no SHAME, nor does it care who it hurts.  It is ruthless in its actions, discourses, and mannerisms.  Many women can thankfully say that “Favor Isn’t Fair…” in terms of never having to meet this uncouth “victimizer”.  However, for the women who have experienced this pain at one time or another it is never a good fate or feeling to collide without warning.  At any rate, “abandon” or “abandonment” is a word that many women can associate with be it secretively or openly.  For those of us who have come face-to-face with this victimizer of grief, God wants you to know in Micah 7:8 “Do not gloat over me, my enemy!  Though I have fallen, I will rise.  Though I sit in darkness, the Lord will be my light.” (NIV)

If you’re a Sister Healing Against Mental Emotions™ (S.H.A.M.E.) this time fighting the spirit of abandonment, you must declare today that your circumstances should not determine your future.  God says in Isaiah 40:8 “Grass withers and flowers fade, but the word of our God endures forever.” (TEV) Therefore, even though the enemy has stamped one of these spirits on your chest, it doesn’t mean that you must accept the label and birth one of these forms to life:

~Spousal Abandonment

~Relationship Abandonment

~Parental Abandonment

~Child Abandonment

~Job Abandonment

God is saying that many of you are fearful to enter into healthy relationships in this season be it personal or professional because of abandonment issues hailing from your past.  However, you must set this fear of abandonment free, speak life into your current situation, seek professional help, and most of all find comfort in the words of God.  Your past loss can be overwhelming, yes, but it doesn’t have to paralyze you from living a healthy and fulfilling life.

As women of God, it’s hard to believe sometimes that the time invested in a relationship [that was solid in your mind] has ended because you might have been misled by the other party, or you’ve failed to recognize the handwriting on the wall early-on.  In any case, many of you fall prey into loving others more than you love yourself at times, which can lead to depression and even symptoms of anxiety; and because of this loss, you plant future seeds of fear. That is why God clearly says in Psalm 73:26 “My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the Rock and firm Strength of my heart and my Portion forever.” (AMP)

If this is your story this morning The Confession of an Abandoned Woman™, God wants you to  know that you can seek professional help within your  local community and remember that in 2 Timothy 1:7 “God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline.” (NIV)

Abandon fear today and live joyously,

~Shamenomore