You Are Not Your Past

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You are not your past.  This is your season to live and not hide behind your salty tears.  So often in life, you may hide behind hurt words or shameful acts that hinder your growth or spiritual walk.  In this season,  I believe that God’s calling you to operate on a higher level.  He’s calling me and you to live beyond hurt words, empty promises, or illusions that are holding me and you hostage as I’ve spoken about in my YouTube video below.

I vividly remember the first day I found out I was becoming a mom for the first time at sixteen.  My tears consumed me like raging water that broke free from a vulnerable dam.   My heart ached.  My throat became so enlarged as if I had swallowed an entire apple.  I felt numbed.  I couldn’t move.  I was young.  I was ashamed.

For the longest time, people talked about me.  My classmates, community members, and church members spoke negatively about my condition as if I was the first person ever to have a baby out of wedlock. Through all the negative talk, I distinctively recalled wanting to hear positive words of encouragement, but instead, I was left feeling ostracized.

As I continuously grow in my Christian walk today,  I often think of that difficult time in my life.  I think about the power of words…my words…my actions.  I  contemplate how those very words tarnished my heart, broke bonds and stripped me bare without ever touching me.

Daily, I think about the number of people that suffer from SHAME because they secretively live in the past.  Today, I understand the power of setting myself free. It’s refreshing not living the lies of others.  I won’t lie.  Freedom comes at a price, and sometimes that price is walking away from negative people who attempt to hold you “emotionally hostage” concerning your past.

Therefore, as you read these words, understand that God loves you so much because He is not a ‘respector of persons’. He validates His love to you daily.  He wants you to live a liberating life where you are no longer ashamed of who you are.  I did it and so can you.  How did I do it?  I started by implementing the following proactive strategies:

1.) I was honest with myself.

2.) I forgave myself.

3.) I learned how to love myself.

4.) I set healthy boundaries.

5.) I forgave those who hurt me.

6.) I live my truth.

7.) I pray daily.

8.) I laugh a lot.

9.) I meditate.

10.) I befriend positive people.

I hope these words minister to your heart.  Please share and comment. I always look forward to reading your replies. Or, if you like, drop me a personal message at shamenomore001@gmail.com.

You are not your past,

Leslie a/k/a ShameNoMore

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Your Miracle Is Right Around the Corner

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When I woke up this morning, I started to meditate.  I heard the small voice of God speaking. It’s amazing how God’s presence can change our perspective and change our entire day.  Not to get too personal, but as I was preparing breakfast this morning, I felt the visitation of God.  It was very strong.

First, God wants us to “COMMAND” our mornings. Take time to pray, meditate, exercise, journal, or self-reflect.  These strategies can help “set” the temperament for our entire day.  Daily, it’s imperative that we honor God by carving out time to converse with Him. When we fail to command our mornings by honoring God, distractions from the enemy can seep into our spirit causing physical and spiritual disruptions.  When we pray, we’re equipping ourselves to withstand the blows of the enemy.  Get rooted in the word when driving to work, while drinking coffee, or while sitting in bed aimlessly.  Every moment that we invite God in, we willfully build a spiritual bridge that allows us to tap into God’s purpose for our lives.  His word daily is food to our souls and nourishment for our bodies.

Next, God doesn’t want us to compromise.  We must stand strong, and we cannot compromise our well-being in this season.  Stay focus; stay mentally healthy; stress-free, and guilt-free. I must be honest; I use to compromise myself for the sake of fitting in with others.  But as I continually grow in Christ, God reminds me to stand on His word as a guide for my life as noted in Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV) where it is written that God has a plan for our lives.  It’s not to harm us, but these plans are to prosper us so that we’ll have hope as He guides and directs us into our future.  Therefore, we must stop compromising our peace.  Remember, God doesn’t function in dysfunction.  He’s a man of order. That’s why it’s important that we build a relationship with God and that we converse with Him daily as we “Command Our Mornings.”

Then, God wants us to trust HIM!!!  I believe that God’s building our FAITH in this season.  He’s building our faith with various test and trials.  Through these various test and trails, God is causing us to exercise our faith and depend totally on him.  For it is written in Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV), “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” 

Finally, God’s working a miracle in our lives.  Let’s stay strong and not sway from God when situations start to look weary.  Remember, God is watching during the test; he’s just quiet as He conducts an evaluation of our hearts and reactions to see if we’re walking by “faith” or walking by “sight”.

Sincerely,

~ShameNoMore

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Thank You Lord for a Fresh Wind

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Dear Hurt,

I’ve known you for quite some time.  At one point, I even tried to befriend you.  What’s crazy— is that I’ve felt how you’ve invaded my space.  I’ve seen how you’ve hurt people close to me, and I’ve even inhaled the remnants of your scent that you’ve left lingering behind on numerous occasions.  I’ve tried countless times to evict you, but oddly enough, you’ve crept through the smallest cracks buried deeply within the crevices of my bleeding heart.

I fondly remember the first time you cut me deeply. I was young, barely in my teens when you showed up making promises of befriending me…protecting me…and soothing me as a teen mom.  For years, I’ve tried to escape the poisonous venom that your bite marks left behind, but just like a snake, you slithered your way back into my life with no regard for good will.

But then again, I thank God for a fresh wind, another chance to stand— a renewal of energy to fight and not suffer in silence or shame.  No longer will the numbness, lustful sensation, or the overwhelming fear to doubt God’s purpose for my life abort my will to reposition myself firmly or reap the benefits that He’s spoken over my life.  I know that God  has destined greatness for my life.  And as a worshiper, I must only believe.

I hope you can forgive me, but the time has come where I will no longer live in SHAME because of you.   When I look in the mirror, all I see are the secret lies you’ve told me that you’ve whispered faintly in my ear.   I’ve deleted those files titled “Lies”, and I’ve pressed the button that reads ‘Empty Recycle Bin’ too just in case I have the urge to retrieve you.

Goodbye and Good Riddance,

A Second Wind…ShameNoMore

The Crushing of the Blood™: S.H.A.M.E.

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Let us draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith. (Hebrews 10:22 NIV)

Dear Sisters Healing Against Mental Emotions™ (S.H.A.M.E.):

I hear God say that some of us are being mold for greatness just like a potter working with wet clay.  He is working out a new plan for deliverance in us.  He’s shaping us, reconstructing us, and most of all repositioning us.  However, before we can accept this new anointing in our lives, we must first undergo The Crushing of the Blood™.

The trick of the enemy is to get us off track.  The Devil is working overtime to distract us from doing the will of God.  Many of us are being test on our jobs, illness(es) within our bodies, financial/ martial issues within the walls of our home, lack of patience with our children, and most importantly exhibiting trust issues concerning God.  God is saying that if we stand the test of time and follow His commandments without contest or waver from the mandate in which He has created for  us, we will receive a fresh anointing in due season.  But, before we can receive or understand this fresh anointing, we must first undergo ophthalmology eye care.  Ladies if the truth be told, some of us are suffering from lack of vision and according to Proverbs 29:18 “Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.” (KJV)

Therefore my Sisters Healing Against Mental Emotions™ (S.H.A.M.E.), God wants us to stop worrying about issues that don’t concern us and place our faith in Him.  He’s working behind the scenes making sure that we’re properly mandated and equipped to war against the issues of life that attempt to depress and stifle our growth.  As we continue to grow as women of God, remember that God hasn’t forgotten us when the heat is on high, it’s just that He’s allowing us to go through the fiery furnace like the three wise men named: Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego in Daniel 3:23. As we can recall, even though these three wise men were placed in the furnace their faith still remained strong.

In essence, as Christian women, just like the fourth man in the fire that appeared out of nowhere, God will show up just in the nick of time to save us too when the fire is deadly hot. So when we are faced with the Nebuchadnezzars’ of life, remember, God will have our enemies question their attack when He allows us to walk away from the fiery furnace of The Crushing of the Blood™ without a blister, all hairs in tack, and clothes unscorch.  So, we will find comfort today ladies in Psalm 30:5 when it says “For his anger lasts only a moment, but his favor lasts a lifetime; weeping may stay for the night, but rejoicing comes in the morning.” (NIV)

Continue to endure because it’s almost over,

~Shamenomore

The Confession of an Abandoned Woman™: S.H.A.M.E.

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This above all: to thine own self be true-Shakespeare

Dear Sisters Healing Against Mental Emotions™:

Abandonment has no SHAME, nor does it care who it hurts.  It is ruthless in its actions, discourses, and mannerisms.  Many women can thankfully say that “Favor Isn’t Fair…” in terms of never having to meet this uncouth “victimizer”.  However, for the women who have experienced this pain at one time or another it is never a good fate or feeling to collide without warning.  At any rate, “abandon” or “abandonment” is a word that many women can associate with be it secretively or openly.  For those of us who have come face-to-face with this victimizer of grief, God wants you to know in Micah 7:8 “Do not gloat over me, my enemy!  Though I have fallen, I will rise.  Though I sit in darkness, the Lord will be my light.” (NIV)

If you’re a Sister Healing Against Mental Emotions™ (S.H.A.M.E.) this time fighting the spirit of abandonment, you must declare today that your circumstances should not determine your future.  God says in Isaiah 40:8 “Grass withers and flowers fade, but the word of our God endures forever.” (TEV) Therefore, even though the enemy has stamped one of these spirits on your chest, it doesn’t mean that you must accept the label and birth one of these forms to life:

~Spousal Abandonment

~Relationship Abandonment

~Parental Abandonment

~Child Abandonment

~Job Abandonment

God is saying that many of you are fearful to enter into healthy relationships in this season be it personal or professional because of abandonment issues hailing from your past.  However, you must set this fear of abandonment free, speak life into your current situation, seek professional help, and most of all find comfort in the words of God.  Your past loss can be overwhelming, yes, but it doesn’t have to paralyze you from living a healthy and fulfilling life.

As women of God, it’s hard to believe sometimes that the time invested in a relationship [that was solid in your mind] has ended because you might have been misled by the other party, or you’ve failed to recognize the handwriting on the wall early-on.  In any case, many of you fall prey into loving others more than you love yourself at times, which can lead to depression and even symptoms of anxiety; and because of this loss, you plant future seeds of fear. That is why God clearly says in Psalm 73:26 “My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the Rock and firm Strength of my heart and my Portion forever.” (AMP)

If this is your story this morning The Confession of an Abandoned Woman™, God wants you to  know that you can seek professional help within your  local community and remember that in 2 Timothy 1:7 “God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline.” (NIV)

Abandon fear today and live joyously,

~Shamenomore

Let Go and Let God

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Create in me a clean heart, O God, And renew a steadfast spirit within me. (Psalm 51:10 NASB)

Dear Sisters Healing Against Mental Emotions (S.H.A.M.E.):

Oftentimes as women, we participate in messy settings that result in messy situations.  We’ve all been there at one time or another where this very act of messiness turns into feelings of guilt and SHAME.  However, the issue is that holding on to guilt and SHAME can become the root causation of living life unfulfilling, which can lead to us feeling uncomfortable in our own skin.  As women of God, in order to live a healthy life daily, we must learn to Let Go and Let God Have His Way.

Holding on to our past or a messy situation out of guilt or SHAME is never of God because He’s a God of restoration and healing.  As we continue to develop our spiritual journey, we are continuously faced with various life challenges.  These encounters can prove to be detrimental to life or they can prove to be beneficial to life.  At any rate, these hindrances can present it’s foul existence in numerous entities such as: pretending like we’re happy in a failing marriage, enduring unhealthy friendships/relationships, repeating the generational curse of poverty, working continuously in a dysfunctional job environment, allowing alcohol/drug addictions to cause daily stressors [be it directly or indirectly], failing to recognize spiritual bondage, fostering the hidden spirit of envy/jealousy, participating secretly  in adulterous relationships, supporting the spirit of generational backwardness, or tolerating the generational curse of  robbing Peter to pay Paul just to name a few.  At any level, as Sisters Healing Against Mental Emotions ™(S.H.A.M.E.), we must stop these cycles from rearing it’s monstrous heads generations after generations in order to restore a positive level of normalcy within our lives.  According to Psalm 71:20, “Though you have made me see troubles, many and bitter, you will restore my life again; from the depths of the earth you will again bring me up” (NIV), which means that God can restore any dormant situation no matter how the circumstance(s) may look.

As sisters, we have a tendency to hold on to problems that disturb the very core of our inner peace. But as we continuously strengthen our relationship with God, it’s imperative that we learn the proverbial lesson early-on of Letting Go and Letting God Have His Way!  Remember ladies, God can’t bless messiness because He’s a God of order and restoration.  In other words ladies, living with guilt and allowing SHAMEFUL feelings to take control in our lives daily is toxic to everyone involved.  For example, it’s amazing how we will allow others to make us feel guilty because we no longer want to function in dysfunction causing us to feel a sense of guilt or SHAME like a ton of bricks weighing physically, mentally, or emotionally within our souls.  Therefore, in Psalm 55:22, God says “Cast your burden upon the Lord and He will sustain you; He will never allow the righteous to be shaken” (NASB). So, what are we waiting for to cast our burdens unto Him?

In short, as we continue to grow in faith by Letting Go and Letting God Have His Way, we must remember that we can choose how we react to various situations in life through evoking prayer and supplication, or we can continuously repeat cycles of generational curses to no avail because we fail to Let Go and Let God Have His Way.