You Are Not Your Past

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You are not your past.  This is your season to live and not hide behind your salty tears.  So often in life, you may hide behind hurt words or shameful acts that hinder your growth or spiritual walk.  In this season,  I believe that God’s calling you to operate on a higher level.  He’s calling me and you to live beyond hurt words, empty promises, or illusions that are holding me and you hostage as I’ve spoken about in my YouTube video below.

I vividly remember the first day I found out I was becoming a mom for the first time at sixteen.  My tears consumed me like raging water that broke free from a vulnerable dam.   My heart ached.  My throat became so enlarged as if I had swallowed an entire apple.  I felt numbed.  I couldn’t move.  I was young.  I was ashamed.

For the longest time, people talked about me.  My classmates, community members, and church members spoke negatively about my condition as if I was the first person ever to have a baby out of wedlock. Through all the negative talk, I distinctively recalled wanting to hear positive words of encouragement, but instead, I was left feeling ostracized.

As I continuously grow in my Christian walk today,  I often think of that difficult time in my life.  I think about the power of words…my words…my actions.  I  contemplate how those very words tarnished my heart, broke bonds and stripped me bare without ever touching me.

Daily, I think about the number of people that suffer from SHAME because they secretively live in the past.  Today, I understand the power of setting myself free. It’s refreshing not living the lies of others.  I won’t lie.  Freedom comes at a price, and sometimes that price is walking away from negative people who attempt to hold you “emotionally hostage” concerning your past.

Therefore, as you read these words, understand that God loves you so much because He is not a ‘respector of persons’. He validates His love to you daily.  He wants you to live a liberating life where you are no longer ashamed of who you are.  I did it and so can you.  How did I do it?  I started by implementing the following proactive strategies:

1.) I was honest with myself.

2.) I forgave myself.

3.) I learned how to love myself.

4.) I set healthy boundaries.

5.) I forgave those who hurt me.

6.) I live my truth.

7.) I pray daily.

8.) I laugh a lot.

9.) I meditate.

10.) I befriend positive people.

I hope these words minister to your heart.  Please share and comment. I always look forward to reading your replies. Or, if you like, drop me a personal message at shamenomore001@gmail.com.

You are not your past,

Leslie a/k/a ShameNoMore

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Release, Relief, or Relive

God has a super master plan for your life.  Don’t remain stuck in a rut because you’re weighed down with guilt or shame.  Instead, find the power to RELEASE those negative emotions.   The struggle for inner-peace is an ongoing battle, which causes significant stress.   This negative emotion can often make you feel reclusive, agitated or aloof.

But as you prepare for the next four days to welcome the month of February, think positively.   Take a moment and reflect.  Ponder how you can invite healing and restoration into your life by releasing pent up issues from your past.  The suppressing of pent up frustration, from past issues, can hinder the positive progression in your life.  Remember, God wants you to live an active life where you’re happy daily—not fighting depression, low self-esteem, guilt or shame.

Step #1: Learn ‘how-to’ positively release your ‘pent up’ issues.  You must RELEASE your GUILT or SHAME.  Let it go.  Cast your worries unto the Lord.  For Philippians 4:13 (KJV) reminds us “I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.”  Christ will give you the power to overcome every affliction or battle that’s hindering the progression of positive growth in your life.  For example, you can implement the following strategies weekly: pray, meditate, or journal.   Just these three simple strategies alone can evoke peace and balance in your life.  Remember, you are a child of God.  God doesn’t want to see you struggle.  Don’t allow GUILT or SHAME to hinder the blessings that God destined for you in 2015.

Step #2: Find relief in this season.  The longer you carry those feelings of guilt or shame around, the longer you’ll battle with those ‘pent up feelings’.  Do yourself a favor.  Find some RELIEF.   As a Christian, your peace is everything.  When you’re seeking deliverance and “RELIEF” in your life, start with some simple steps:

  • accept the “problem” at face value
  • receive your part in the “problem”
  • forgive completely
  • forgive yourself wholeheartedly
  • bury the issue

In life, finding RELIEF is an active strategy that will help you unwind in a healthy manner.   I’ve listed several strategies above, but the primary strategy is keeping calm and accepting the “problem” at face value.  For some people, it’s difficult to accept the truth because the truth hurts.  If you’re feeling pain, then it means that something is wrong.  Accept your part in the problem, find a solution to alleviate your pain…like forgiving the person(s) entirely, and then forgive yourself wholly, and bury the issue for good.   Listen; don’t relieve the pain temporarily but permanently.

Step #3: Release the issue, find relief, or relive the test.  When you’re suffering intensely with guilt or shame, oppressive battles within your mind can consume you.  Don’t keep reliving a life of GUILT or SHAME.  It steals your peace.   That’s why it’s time to let go and let God heal all the broken pieces in this season.  Let me suggest two simple strategies.

Strategy #1:

Write a letter.  Address it… (Dear Hurt, Dear Pain, Dear Guilt, etc.).   You get the picture.  List every issue, hurt, guilt, shame, etc., which has stolen your joy and peace.   Write down how and why it’s kept you captive for years.  Now, tell the “issue” or “problem” why it will NO longer keep you hostage.   Seal the letter.  Then, locate a ‘safe’ place and burn it.

As your letter burns, walk away slowly without looking back…all the while repeating, “I AM NOT MY PAST.  I WILL NO LONGER ALLOW THIS GUILT, HURT, or SHAME to consume me or steal my peace.”  Do not look back, or you’ll risk the burden of reconnecting with your problem.  Your life is much too valuable for that.

Strategy #2:

Listen to my awesome FREE audio download titled: Release, Relief, or Relive.   Share it, and I hope this audio minister to your heart.

Please freely “SHARE” this word.  Remember, Psalm 55:22 says, “Cast they burden upon the Lord, and he shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be moved.”  You got this…

Praying for you always, XOXO

Leslie E. Brown/ShameNoMore™

Transformation Discovery Coach

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Your Miracle Is Right Around the Corner

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When I woke up this morning, I started to meditate.  I heard the small voice of God speaking. It’s amazing how God’s presence can change our perspective and change our entire day.  Not to get too personal, but as I was preparing breakfast this morning, I felt the visitation of God.  It was very strong.

First, God wants us to “COMMAND” our mornings. Take time to pray, meditate, exercise, journal, or self-reflect.  These strategies can help “set” the temperament for our entire day.  Daily, it’s imperative that we honor God by carving out time to converse with Him. When we fail to command our mornings by honoring God, distractions from the enemy can seep into our spirit causing physical and spiritual disruptions.  When we pray, we’re equipping ourselves to withstand the blows of the enemy.  Get rooted in the word when driving to work, while drinking coffee, or while sitting in bed aimlessly.  Every moment that we invite God in, we willfully build a spiritual bridge that allows us to tap into God’s purpose for our lives.  His word daily is food to our souls and nourishment for our bodies.

Next, God doesn’t want us to compromise.  We must stand strong, and we cannot compromise our well-being in this season.  Stay focus; stay mentally healthy; stress-free, and guilt-free. I must be honest; I use to compromise myself for the sake of fitting in with others.  But as I continually grow in Christ, God reminds me to stand on His word as a guide for my life as noted in Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV) where it is written that God has a plan for our lives.  It’s not to harm us, but these plans are to prosper us so that we’ll have hope as He guides and directs us into our future.  Therefore, we must stop compromising our peace.  Remember, God doesn’t function in dysfunction.  He’s a man of order. That’s why it’s important that we build a relationship with God and that we converse with Him daily as we “Command Our Mornings.”

Then, God wants us to trust HIM!!!  I believe that God’s building our FAITH in this season.  He’s building our faith with various test and trials.  Through these various test and trails, God is causing us to exercise our faith and depend totally on him.  For it is written in Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV), “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” 

Finally, God’s working a miracle in our lives.  Let’s stay strong and not sway from God when situations start to look weary.  Remember, God is watching during the test; he’s just quiet as He conducts an evaluation of our hearts and reactions to see if we’re walking by “faith” or walking by “sight”.

Sincerely,

~ShameNoMore

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Thank You Lord for a Fresh Wind

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Dear Hurt,

I’ve known you for quite some time.  At one point, I even tried to befriend you.  What’s crazy— is that I’ve felt how you’ve invaded my space.  I’ve seen how you’ve hurt people close to me, and I’ve even inhaled the remnants of your scent that you’ve left lingering behind on numerous occasions.  I’ve tried countless times to evict you, but oddly enough, you’ve crept through the smallest cracks buried deeply within the crevices of my bleeding heart.

I fondly remember the first time you cut me deeply. I was young, barely in my teens when you showed up making promises of befriending me…protecting me…and soothing me as a teen mom.  For years, I’ve tried to escape the poisonous venom that your bite marks left behind, but just like a snake, you slithered your way back into my life with no regard for good will.

But then again, I thank God for a fresh wind, another chance to stand— a renewal of energy to fight and not suffer in silence or shame.  No longer will the numbness, lustful sensation, or the overwhelming fear to doubt God’s purpose for my life abort my will to reposition myself firmly or reap the benefits that He’s spoken over my life.  I know that God  has destined greatness for my life.  And as a worshiper, I must only believe.

I hope you can forgive me, but the time has come where I will no longer live in SHAME because of you.   When I look in the mirror, all I see are the secret lies you’ve told me that you’ve whispered faintly in my ear.   I’ve deleted those files titled “Lies”, and I’ve pressed the button that reads ‘Empty Recycle Bin’ too just in case I have the urge to retrieve you.

Goodbye and Good Riddance,

A Second Wind…ShameNoMore

It’s “RECLAIM” TUESDAY: S.H.A.M.E.

Hello my S.H.A.M.E. Champions,

Get ready ladies, it’s “RECLAIM” Tuesday!   The DEVIL has attempted to steal your joy, peace, job, marriage, children, & health.  We’re putting the devil on notice, “NO Weapons Formed Against YOU Shall Prosper”.  Therefore, here are several inspirational/motivational words to help you restore what the DEVIL has attempted to steal the last several years in your life.

Psalm 46:10 states, “God is our refuge and strength and ever-present help in trouble.” (NIV)

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Jeremiah 29:11 proclaims, “For I know the plans I have for you, “declares the Lord,” plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (NIV)

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Proverbs 16:7 confesses, “When God approves your life, even your enemies will end up shaking your hand.” (A Pocketful of Promises for Women)

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Psalm 46:10 declares, “He says, Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.” (NIV)

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Psalm 55:22 states, “Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.” (NIV)

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Make this day a “RECLAIM” Tuesday,

 

~Shamenomore

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Sip, Reflect & Let’s Talk: It’s Breakthrough Monday

It’s BREAKTHROUGH Monday my Sisters Healing Against Mental Emotions:

A lot of women are suffering from binding spirits.  It’s important that we understand that the DEVIL is a liar be it on our jobs, in our marriages, within our finances, or inside our mindsets.  Therefore, I stand in agreement that you are set free through these scriptures and inspirational words.

“He refreshes my soul. He guides me along the right paths for his name’s sake.”  (Ps. 23:3 NIV)

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“God is not a man, that He should lie. Has He said, and will He not do it?”  (Num 23:19)

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“Do not rejoice over me, my enemy; when I fall, I will arise; when I sit in darkness, the Lord will be a light to me.” (Mic 7:8)

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“Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the bones.” (Prov 16:24)

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“Your light shall break forth like the morning, your healing shall spring forth speedily, and your righteousness shall go before you; the glory of the Lord shall be your rear guard.” (Isa 58:8)

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Have a great BREAKTHROUGH Monday,

~Shamenomore

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It’s Never Too Late: Happy Belated Mother’s Day

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Good Morning My Sisters Healing Against Mental Emotions™ (S.H.A.M.E.):

On Friday, I had the opportunity to attend a Mother’s Day Tea at my son’s school.  For his section, they recited a poem entitled “My Mommy” author unknown. 

My mommy: cuddles me

Kisses me

Hugs me

And misses me!

 

Pampers me

Praises me

And always AMAZES me!

 

Washes my clothes for me

Tickles my toes for me

Giggles and talks with me

And also goes on walks with me.

 

Says sweet dreams to me

Sings sweet songs to me

I’m SO glad she belongs to me!

It warmed my heart to see him recite his little poem that took him several days to remember.  Because of the reminisce of this event, as I drove home this weekend, I had time to reflect on how important it was to instill in my children morally the importance of spending time with family, honoring good friendships, and spending time with God.  I heard someone say this weekend, “You’re blessed to have a mom to spend time with.  If I could turn back the hands of time, I wish my mother could be here today.”  I felt sadden to hear these words mumble from my uncle’s mouth, or to witness how certain people couldn’t go home because of strife. Therefore, as women of God, we should continue to create healthy, positive homes so we can impart in our children according to Exodus 20:12 “Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” (NIV)

Moreover, as we continue to honor our mothers who taught us to become confident women, our sisters who filled in the gaps when our mothers couldn’t be there, the aunts who cuddled and gave kisses, or a complete stranger that God placed in your life just in the nick of time to console you when you were at your lowest; it’s important that we pay tribute to those who cared for us when we couldn’t care for ourselves.  When I think about Psalms 40: 1 “I waited patiently for the Lord;  he turned to me and heard my cry” (NIV) even when I’m feeling tired, stressed, disappointed, or even baffled at times, I’m still honored to be a mom because it’s one of the greatest gifts God could have bestowed upon me.

So, as we continue to push forward this year, I challenge my S.H.A.M.E. sisters to spread our wings and fill in the gap for a young woman who is without a mom or “ANYONE” who needs our support during this season.  Remember, Luke 12:48 states, “But the one who does not know and does things deserving punishment will be beaten with few blows. From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded; and from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked.”  (NIV)

Continue to be a beacon of light,

 

~Shamenomore

Living Virtuously While Accentuating The Positives (Principle #2): S.H.A.M.E.

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Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. (Psalm 37:4 NRSV)

Hello Ladies,

Many of us desire to be a virtuous woman just like the woman in Proverbs 31:10-31 even if we’re not married.  However, this powerful scripture not only apply to the married women, but it’s also applicable to the unmarried women and our daughters as well.  Therefore, as we continue our discussion on Principle #2: Accentuating The Positives, I want you to think about your truth in terms of handling your business daily as a virtuous woman or young daughter of God.  For example, this woman took care of her health [ate right, exercised, lived stress free, and obtained her yearly checkups], she acquired property [she was knowledgeable in terms of acquiring real estate…she educated herself], she balanced her finances [paid her bills on time, checked her credit report for fraudulent activities, and didn’t spend beyond her means], and she took care of her home without malicious [she cheerfully prepared meals, cleaned, listen to issues, gave healthy advice, and didn’t waste time with gossip].

Although some of us may not be married, don’t desire to be married, or we’re still waiting on God to provide the proper mate…we need to exhibit virtuous characteristics as we carry out the will of God in term of accentuating our positives.  So as we go about our daily task today, please take the time to mediate on these words while we Sip, Reflect, & Let’s Talk™.

Proverbs 31: 10-31 King James Version (KJV)

10Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.

11The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

12She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

13She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.

14She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.

15She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her

maidens.

16She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.

17She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.

18She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.

19She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

20She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

21She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.

22She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.

23Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.

24She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.

25Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.

26She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

27She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

28Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.

29Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.

30Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be

praised.

31Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

Accentuate your positives by becoming a virtuous woman,

~Shamenomore

I’ve learned that no mat…

I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life. I’ve learned that making a “living” is not the same thing as making a “life.” I’ve learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back. I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision. I’ve learned that even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one. I’ve learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. I’ve learned that I still have a lot to learn. I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.― Maya Angelou

Words of Wisdom from Maya Angelou

 

Supporting Your Idol: S.H.A.M.E.

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[Jesus said,] “Whoever serves me must follow me; and where I am, my servant also will be.  My Father will honor the one who serves me.” (John 12: 26 NIV)

Many of you have watched American Idol over the years.  It’s been a great show in the past and still is to some.  You’ve cheered, booed, laughed, or you may have stood in long lines hoping to receive that golden ticket to California.  Whatever your reason(s) for supporting American Idol, you did it faithfully one week after another without relent.  Personally, this show was one of my favorite guilty pleasures in life as well.  I couldn’t wait to flick on the television and wait for that one infamous judge to verbally bite into those singers who some would label the wannabes.  However, just as you take the time to cheerfully support your favorite show(s), God wants you to support Him with the same heart.  He wants to know, who are you idolizing these days?  In order for you to prosper during this season, I hear God saying, “Thou shalt have no other gods before me.” (Exodus 20:3)

As you get ready this season to support your new hit show(s) be it the Voice, Fashion Stars, Braxton Family Values, Sweetie Pies, or even Mary Mary [okay these are now my new guilty pleasures…], you must remember God is seeking the same type of hype.  He’s waiting anxiously for you to cheer, support, laugh, talk, and gather weekly without hesitation to see what He has planned next for your life.  Remember, in order to become an effective woman of God, you must learn to serve Him fervently. You must learn to be just as attentive and heed to His words daily as you are attentive to flicking that television remote religiously at its designated show time.

It’s understandable that many of you are timid to serve God fully for some odd reason or another, especially if this is a new journey in which you’re embarking upon.  However, in order to establish your fullest potential spiritually according to Exodus 20: 4-5 it states, “You shall not make for yourself an image in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below. You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me,…” (NIV) Wow!  These are some powerful words to contemplate today.

As you continue to rally nightly in support of your new hit show(s), take the time to provide God with the same one-on-one time as well.  This private time could prove to be special; yet, it can also bring restoration for you as Sisters Healing Against Mental Emotions™ (S.H.A.M.E.).  Just so you understand the importance of setting special time for God, remember he’s personally waiting to make you laugh, cry, and restore the years according to Joel 2:25 “And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten, the cankerworm, and the caterpillar, and the palmerworm, my great army which I sent among you.” (KJV) In other words, as you continue to upgrade your spiritual walk daily learn to idolize the right God and watch Him make you soar.

This obsession is the most powerful of them all,

~Shamenomore