You Are Not Your Past

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You are not your past.  This is your season to live and not hide behind your salty tears.  So often in life, you may hide behind hurt words or shameful acts that hinder your growth or spiritual walk.  In this season,  I believe that God’s calling you to operate on a higher level.  He’s calling me and you to live beyond hurt words, empty promises, or illusions that are holding me and you hostage as I’ve spoken about in my YouTube video below.

I vividly remember the first day I found out I was becoming a mom for the first time at sixteen.  My tears consumed me like raging water that broke free from a vulnerable dam.   My heart ached.  My throat became so enlarged as if I had swallowed an entire apple.  I felt numbed.  I couldn’t move.  I was young.  I was ashamed.

For the longest time, people talked about me.  My classmates, community members, and church members spoke negatively about my condition as if I was the first person ever to have a baby out of wedlock. Through all the negative talk, I distinctively recalled wanting to hear positive words of encouragement, but instead, I was left feeling ostracized.

As I continuously grow in my Christian walk today,  I often think of that difficult time in my life.  I think about the power of words…my words…my actions.  I  contemplate how those very words tarnished my heart, broke bonds and stripped me bare without ever touching me.

Daily, I think about the number of people that suffer from SHAME because they secretively live in the past.  Today, I understand the power of setting myself free. It’s refreshing not living the lies of others.  I won’t lie.  Freedom comes at a price, and sometimes that price is walking away from negative people who attempt to hold you “emotionally hostage” concerning your past.

Therefore, as you read these words, understand that God loves you so much because He is not a ‘respector of persons’. He validates His love to you daily.  He wants you to live a liberating life where you are no longer ashamed of who you are.  I did it and so can you.  How did I do it?  I started by implementing the following proactive strategies:

1.) I was honest with myself.

2.) I forgave myself.

3.) I learned how to love myself.

4.) I set healthy boundaries.

5.) I forgave those who hurt me.

6.) I live my truth.

7.) I pray daily.

8.) I laugh a lot.

9.) I meditate.

10.) I befriend positive people.

I hope these words minister to your heart.  Please share and comment. I always look forward to reading your replies. Or, if you like, drop me a personal message at shamenomore001@gmail.com.

You are not your past,

Leslie a/k/a ShameNoMore

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Your Miracle Is Right Around the Corner

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When I woke up this morning, I started to meditate.  I heard the small voice of God speaking. It’s amazing how God’s presence can change our perspective and change our entire day.  Not to get too personal, but as I was preparing breakfast this morning, I felt the visitation of God.  It was very strong.

First, God wants us to “COMMAND” our mornings. Take time to pray, meditate, exercise, journal, or self-reflect.  These strategies can help “set” the temperament for our entire day.  Daily, it’s imperative that we honor God by carving out time to converse with Him. When we fail to command our mornings by honoring God, distractions from the enemy can seep into our spirit causing physical and spiritual disruptions.  When we pray, we’re equipping ourselves to withstand the blows of the enemy.  Get rooted in the word when driving to work, while drinking coffee, or while sitting in bed aimlessly.  Every moment that we invite God in, we willfully build a spiritual bridge that allows us to tap into God’s purpose for our lives.  His word daily is food to our souls and nourishment for our bodies.

Next, God doesn’t want us to compromise.  We must stand strong, and we cannot compromise our well-being in this season.  Stay focus; stay mentally healthy; stress-free, and guilt-free. I must be honest; I use to compromise myself for the sake of fitting in with others.  But as I continually grow in Christ, God reminds me to stand on His word as a guide for my life as noted in Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV) where it is written that God has a plan for our lives.  It’s not to harm us, but these plans are to prosper us so that we’ll have hope as He guides and directs us into our future.  Therefore, we must stop compromising our peace.  Remember, God doesn’t function in dysfunction.  He’s a man of order. That’s why it’s important that we build a relationship with God and that we converse with Him daily as we “Command Our Mornings.”

Then, God wants us to trust HIM!!!  I believe that God’s building our FAITH in this season.  He’s building our faith with various test and trials.  Through these various test and trails, God is causing us to exercise our faith and depend totally on him.  For it is written in Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV), “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” 

Finally, God’s working a miracle in our lives.  Let’s stay strong and not sway from God when situations start to look weary.  Remember, God is watching during the test; he’s just quiet as He conducts an evaluation of our hearts and reactions to see if we’re walking by “faith” or walking by “sight”.

Sincerely,

~ShameNoMore

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Thank You Lord for a Fresh Wind

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Dear Hurt,

I’ve known you for quite some time.  At one point, I even tried to befriend you.  What’s crazy— is that I’ve felt how you’ve invaded my space.  I’ve seen how you’ve hurt people close to me, and I’ve even inhaled the remnants of your scent that you’ve left lingering behind on numerous occasions.  I’ve tried countless times to evict you, but oddly enough, you’ve crept through the smallest cracks buried deeply within the crevices of my bleeding heart.

I fondly remember the first time you cut me deeply. I was young, barely in my teens when you showed up making promises of befriending me…protecting me…and soothing me as a teen mom.  For years, I’ve tried to escape the poisonous venom that your bite marks left behind, but just like a snake, you slithered your way back into my life with no regard for good will.

But then again, I thank God for a fresh wind, another chance to stand— a renewal of energy to fight and not suffer in silence or shame.  No longer will the numbness, lustful sensation, or the overwhelming fear to doubt God’s purpose for my life abort my will to reposition myself firmly or reap the benefits that He’s spoken over my life.  I know that God  has destined greatness for my life.  And as a worshiper, I must only believe.

I hope you can forgive me, but the time has come where I will no longer live in SHAME because of you.   When I look in the mirror, all I see are the secret lies you’ve told me that you’ve whispered faintly in my ear.   I’ve deleted those files titled “Lies”, and I’ve pressed the button that reads ‘Empty Recycle Bin’ too just in case I have the urge to retrieve you.

Goodbye and Good Riddance,

A Second Wind…ShameNoMore

Dear Future

My Friend,

I’m looking forward to my future.  Are you?  2015 is just around the corner and I can’t wait for God to reposition me and you…very soon.  God’s got something great in store for us.  Get ready.  Get excited.  Expect the unexpected.

Remember, change can be hard, but I feel like this time around for all of us who has weathered the storm, God’s on the verge of blessing us big time.  Prepare your heart to receive this blessing.  It’s going to be big, different, and may even be a bit overwhelming.  Just know, God’s in control— so get ready to receive the blessing(s) that’s about to flow into your life.

Action Plan

1#: Put God first.

2#: Pray.

3#: Show gratitude.

4#: Brace yourself for change.

5#: Be flexible.

6#: Live in the moment.

Dear Future

Sign,

Excited About My Change…ShameNoMore

Be Who God Has Called You to Be

Hey,

I know it’s been a while since my last post. But during my season of growth, I’ve learned that I can no longer afford to be who people want me to be, but I must continue to grow into the person that God has called me to be. And with that change, some people may decide to walk away…while others choose to help embrace my change.

Either way, I’m fine with the new me.  The wiser I become, the more I learn that I can no longer wear a MASK where I pretend daily to make others feel comfortable. I’ve been gifted with a calling. And that calling is to teach, speak, coach and help others to become Shame No More.

Lessons Learned

Life Lesson #1: I must walk in my truth.

Life Lesson #2: I must continuously shed my old skin.

Life Lesson #3: I must wear my new skin without SHAME.

Life Lesson #4: I must embrace the new me/transition fully.

Sign, I’m Back…ShameNoMore Be Who God

Plant Your Seeds~S.H.A.M.E.

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Good Morning My Friends,

Fall is in the air.  The air is crisp; the leaves are changing colors, and it’s time to pull out your favorite jacket during your morning commute.  Therefore, God wants me to tell you this morning that it’s time to plant seeds that can withstand HARSH weather.  If you fail to plan seeds that can be cultivated during this period of your life, your seeds will not flourish.  Therefore, take time to water your seeds, talk to your seeds, uproot the weeds that are taking up space in your garden, fertilize your seeds for extra nourishment, and don’t forget to shield your seeds when the temperature drops at night.  It’s harvest time my friends, and even though the weather is changing rapidly, God wants you to get ready, get ready, and get ready!  It’s your TIME to reap your harvest. Give him the glory and the praise. ~ShameNoMore

The Growing Pains of Life Is Just the Movement of God

Psalm 107: 19 says, “Then they cry unto the Lord in their trouble, and he saveth them out of their distresses.” (KJV)

Dear sisters in Christ,

I use to hear my grandmother say that God moves in mysterious ways.   Now, as an adult, I have a greater appreciation for this statement.  It never ceases to amaze me how it takes a decade or few seasons to come to terms with old-fashioned sayings from my past. As I continue to grow spiritually, I’ve come to realize that grandma had a relationship with God that I am only now growing to understand.

For example, growing pains are never enjoyable.  Sometimes they are overwhelming, which can cause EMBARRASSMENT and SHAME.  As women of God, it’s difficult to journey through life and understand the growing pains that contribute to successes or failures.  All growing pains aren’t negative, however.  That’s why it’s imperative for us to understand that God allows certain growing pains to promote us to the next chapter in our lives.

Be it a divorce, the death of a love one, an abusive relationship, demotion on a job, health concerns, or financial issues…growing pains are evitable.  However, it’s how we deal with these growing pains that determine our placements in life.  For instance, God allowed the SHAME of me being a single mother at the tender age of sixteen to teach me how to handle adversities with class, how to fight without ever having to pass a lick to impose bodily harm, and how to smile when the wasp stings were biting left and right…but God!  Remember, Psalm 107:20 clearly states, “He sent his word, and healed them, and delivered them from their destructions.” (KJV)

After looking back on this SHAME or what I like to call a growing pain, I decided to embrace my pain and turn it into a success story.  I didn’t allow this major growing pain to stop me from living a productive life as a teenager nor cripple me from furthering my education.  Instead, I decided to use this pain to make me a better mother, sister, co-worker, and friend.

Keep in mind that as sisters in Christ, we’ll always face an abundance of stumbling blocks and growing pains in life that attempt to hinder our daily walk with God.  These stumbling blocks and growing pains in life can cause various types of unforeseen issues if we’re not mindful of these demonic devices early-on.  That’s why it’s vital that we as sisters in Christ provide nurturing support for one another by exhibiting compassion, resilience, and the tenacity to beat the odds when the devil attempts to attack us daily.

~ShameNoMore

Source: http://www.biblegateway.com

It’s “RECLAIM” TUESDAY: S.H.A.M.E.

Hello my S.H.A.M.E. Champions,

Get ready ladies, it’s “RECLAIM” Tuesday!   The DEVIL has attempted to steal your joy, peace, job, marriage, children, & health.  We’re putting the devil on notice, “NO Weapons Formed Against YOU Shall Prosper”.  Therefore, here are several inspirational/motivational words to help you restore what the DEVIL has attempted to steal the last several years in your life.

Psalm 46:10 states, “God is our refuge and strength and ever-present help in trouble.” (NIV)

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Jeremiah 29:11 proclaims, “For I know the plans I have for you, “declares the Lord,” plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (NIV)

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Proverbs 16:7 confesses, “When God approves your life, even your enemies will end up shaking your hand.” (A Pocketful of Promises for Women)

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Psalm 46:10 declares, “He says, Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.” (NIV)

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Psalm 55:22 states, “Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.” (NIV)

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Make this day a “RECLAIM” Tuesday,

 

~Shamenomore

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Sources: www.biblegateway.com and A Pocketful of Promises for Women