Your Miracle Is Right Around the Corner

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When I woke up this morning, I started to meditate.  I heard the small voice of God speaking. It’s amazing how God’s presence can change our perspective and change our entire day.  Not to get too personal, but as I was preparing breakfast this morning, I felt the visitation of God.  It was very strong.

First, God wants us to “COMMAND” our mornings. Take time to pray, meditate, exercise, journal, or self-reflect.  These strategies can help “set” the temperament for our entire day.  Daily, it’s imperative that we honor God by carving out time to converse with Him. When we fail to command our mornings by honoring God, distractions from the enemy can seep into our spirit causing physical and spiritual disruptions.  When we pray, we’re equipping ourselves to withstand the blows of the enemy.  Get rooted in the word when driving to work, while drinking coffee, or while sitting in bed aimlessly.  Every moment that we invite God in, we willfully build a spiritual bridge that allows us to tap into God’s purpose for our lives.  His word daily is food to our souls and nourishment for our bodies.

Next, God doesn’t want us to compromise.  We must stand strong, and we cannot compromise our well-being in this season.  Stay focus; stay mentally healthy; stress-free, and guilt-free. I must be honest; I use to compromise myself for the sake of fitting in with others.  But as I continually grow in Christ, God reminds me to stand on His word as a guide for my life as noted in Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV) where it is written that God has a plan for our lives.  It’s not to harm us, but these plans are to prosper us so that we’ll have hope as He guides and directs us into our future.  Therefore, we must stop compromising our peace.  Remember, God doesn’t function in dysfunction.  He’s a man of order. That’s why it’s important that we build a relationship with God and that we converse with Him daily as we “Command Our Mornings.”

Then, God wants us to trust HIM!!!  I believe that God’s building our FAITH in this season.  He’s building our faith with various test and trials.  Through these various test and trails, God is causing us to exercise our faith and depend totally on him.  For it is written in Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV), “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” 

Finally, God’s working a miracle in our lives.  Let’s stay strong and not sway from God when situations start to look weary.  Remember, God is watching during the test; he’s just quiet as He conducts an evaluation of our hearts and reactions to see if we’re walking by “faith” or walking by “sight”.

Sincerely,

~ShameNoMore

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Dear Future

My Friend,

I’m looking forward to my future.  Are you?  2015 is just around the corner and I can’t wait for God to reposition me and you…very soon.  God’s got something great in store for us.  Get ready.  Get excited.  Expect the unexpected.

Remember, change can be hard, but I feel like this time around for all of us who has weathered the storm, God’s on the verge of blessing us big time.  Prepare your heart to receive this blessing.  It’s going to be big, different, and may even be a bit overwhelming.  Just know, God’s in control— so get ready to receive the blessing(s) that’s about to flow into your life.

Action Plan

1#: Put God first.

2#: Pray.

3#: Show gratitude.

4#: Brace yourself for change.

5#: Be flexible.

6#: Live in the moment.

Dear Future

Sign,

Excited About My Change…ShameNoMore

Be Who God Has Called You to Be

Hey,

I know it’s been a while since my last post. But during my season of growth, I’ve learned that I can no longer afford to be who people want me to be, but I must continue to grow into the person that God has called me to be. And with that change, some people may decide to walk away…while others choose to help embrace my change.

Either way, I’m fine with the new me.  The wiser I become, the more I learn that I can no longer wear a MASK where I pretend daily to make others feel comfortable. I’ve been gifted with a calling. And that calling is to teach, speak, coach and help others to become Shame No More.

Lessons Learned

Life Lesson #1: I must walk in my truth.

Life Lesson #2: I must continuously shed my old skin.

Life Lesson #3: I must wear my new skin without SHAME.

Life Lesson #4: I must embrace the new me/transition fully.

Sign, I’m Back…ShameNoMore Be Who God

S.H.A.M.E.: Telephone Numbers to God

Hello S.H.A.M.E. family,

It’s been a long time since my last post.  However, as I was cleaning out my saved files tonight, I ran across this list of scriptures.  It warmed my heart immensely because I needed several of these scriptures like yesterday. 🙂  I can’t remember who sent these to me, or where I may have obtained them, but I do KNOW that it can be applied to many of our lives currently.  If you can’t use these, please  forward to someone who can.

Emergency Telephone Numbers

These are more effective than 911. Call when . . .

You are sad, phone………………………………………………………… John 14

You have sinned, phone………………………………………………………… Psalm 51

You are facing danger, phone………………………………………………………… Psalm 91

People have failed you, phone………………………………………………………… Psalm 27

It feels as though God is far from you, phone………………………………………….. Psalm 139

Your faith needs stimulation, phone……………………………………………………… Hebrews 11

You are alone and scared, phone………………………………………………………… Psalm 23

You are worried, phone………………………………………………………… Matthew 8:19–34

You are hurt and critical, phone…………………………………………………….. 1 Corinthians 13

You wonder about Christianity, phone ………………………………….. 2 Corinthians 5:15-18

You feel like an outcast, phone……………………………………………………… Romans 8:31-39

You are seeking peace, phone…………………………………………………….. Matthew 11:25-30

It feels as if the world is bigger than God, phone……………………………………….. Psalm 90

You need Christ like insurance, phone…………………………………………….. Romans 8:1-30

You are leaving home for a trip, phone……………………………………………………. Psalm 121

You are praying for yourself, phone………………………………………………………… Psalm 87

You require courage for a task, phone………………………………………………………. Joshua 1

Inflation’s and investments are hogging your thoughts, phone…………… Mark 10:17-31

You are depressive, phone………………………………………………………… Psalm 27

Your bank account is empty, phone………………………………………………………… Psalm 37

You lose faith in mankind, phone…………………………………………………….. Corinthians 13

It looks like people are unfriendly, phone……………………………………………………. John 15

You are losing hope, phone………………………………………………………… Psalm 126

You feel the world is small compared to you, phone…………………………………… Psalm 19

You want to carry fruit, phone………………………………………………………… John 15

Paul’s secret for happiness, phone……………………………………………….. Colossians 3:12-17

With big opportunity/discovery, phone…………………………………………………….. Isaiah 55

To get along with other people, phone……………………………………………………. Romans 12

ALTERNATE NUMBERS

For dealing with fear, call………………………………………………………… Psalm 3:47

For security, call………………………………………………………… Psalm 121:3

For assurance, call………………………………………………………… Mark 8:35

For reassurance, call………………………………………………………… Psalm 145:18

All of these numbers may be phoned directly

No Operator assistance is necessary

All lines to Heaven are available 24 hours a day

FEED YOUR FAITH AND DOUBT WILL STARVE TO DEATH

(Author Unknown) -ShameNoMore

Plant Your Seeds~S.H.A.M.E.

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Good Morning My Friends,

Fall is in the air.  The air is crisp; the leaves are changing colors, and it’s time to pull out your favorite jacket during your morning commute.  Therefore, God wants me to tell you this morning that it’s time to plant seeds that can withstand HARSH weather.  If you fail to plan seeds that can be cultivated during this period of your life, your seeds will not flourish.  Therefore, take time to water your seeds, talk to your seeds, uproot the weeds that are taking up space in your garden, fertilize your seeds for extra nourishment, and don’t forget to shield your seeds when the temperature drops at night.  It’s harvest time my friends, and even though the weather is changing rapidly, God wants you to get ready, get ready, and get ready!  It’s your TIME to reap your harvest. Give him the glory and the praise. ~ShameNoMore

Words from Tyler Perry

Good Morning Ladies,
I was checking my facebook page this morning, and I ran across this post from Tyler Perry.  I just had to REPOST it here for you guys to read.  In this season of my life, these words are powerful and I truly need to contemplate these words as well.
WHAT KIND OF PERSON ARE YOU?

I said this in a play once as Madea… LOL. But I thought I’d revisit it as Tyler for those of you who may not have heard it 🙂

I have this tree analogy when I think of people in my life, be it friends, family, acquaintances, employees, co-workers, whomever…They are all placed inside what I call my tree test. It goes like this:

LEAF PEOPLE
Some people come into your life and they are like leaves on a tree. They are only there for a season. You can’t depend on them or count on them because they are weak and only there to give you shade. Like leaves, they are there to take what they need and as soon as it gets cold or a wind blows in your life they are gone. You can’t be angry at them, it’s just who they are.

BRANCH PEOPLE
There are some people who come into your life and they are like branches on a tree. They are stronger than leaves, but you have to be careful with them. They will stick around through most seasons, but if you go through a storm or two in your life it’s possible that you could lose them. Most times they break away when it’s tough. Although they are stronger than leaves, you have to test them out before you run out there and put all your weight on them. In most cases they can’t handle too much weight. But again, you can’t be mad with them, it’s just who they are.

ROOT PEOPLE
If you can find some people in your life who are like the roots of a tree then you have found something special. Like the roots of a tree, they are hard to find because they are not trying to be seen. Their only job is to hold you up and help you live a strong and healthy life. If you thrive, they are happy. They stay low key and don’t let the world know that they are there. And if you go through an awful storm they will hold you up. Their job is to hold you up, come what may, and to nourish you, feed you and water you.

Just as a tree has many limbs and many leaves, there are few roots. Look at your own life. How many leaves, branches and roots do you have? What are you in other people’s lives?

THANK GOD FOR YOUR ROOTS! You may want to call them today or share this message with them and attach your own note saying, “thanks for being my root”.

By the way, don’t waste your time sending this to a leaf, they won’t get it anyway. ~Tyler Perry

It’s Never Too Late: Happy Belated Mother’s Day

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Good Morning My Sisters Healing Against Mental Emotions™ (S.H.A.M.E.):

On Friday, I had the opportunity to attend a Mother’s Day Tea at my son’s school.  For his section, they recited a poem entitled “My Mommy” author unknown. 

My mommy: cuddles me

Kisses me

Hugs me

And misses me!

 

Pampers me

Praises me

And always AMAZES me!

 

Washes my clothes for me

Tickles my toes for me

Giggles and talks with me

And also goes on walks with me.

 

Says sweet dreams to me

Sings sweet songs to me

I’m SO glad she belongs to me!

It warmed my heart to see him recite his little poem that took him several days to remember.  Because of the reminisce of this event, as I drove home this weekend, I had time to reflect on how important it was to instill in my children morally the importance of spending time with family, honoring good friendships, and spending time with God.  I heard someone say this weekend, “You’re blessed to have a mom to spend time with.  If I could turn back the hands of time, I wish my mother could be here today.”  I felt sadden to hear these words mumble from my uncle’s mouth, or to witness how certain people couldn’t go home because of strife. Therefore, as women of God, we should continue to create healthy, positive homes so we can impart in our children according to Exodus 20:12 “Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.” (NIV)

Moreover, as we continue to honor our mothers who taught us to become confident women, our sisters who filled in the gaps when our mothers couldn’t be there, the aunts who cuddled and gave kisses, or a complete stranger that God placed in your life just in the nick of time to console you when you were at your lowest; it’s important that we pay tribute to those who cared for us when we couldn’t care for ourselves.  When I think about Psalms 40: 1 “I waited patiently for the Lord;  he turned to me and heard my cry” (NIV) even when I’m feeling tired, stressed, disappointed, or even baffled at times, I’m still honored to be a mom because it’s one of the greatest gifts God could have bestowed upon me.

So, as we continue to push forward this year, I challenge my S.H.A.M.E. sisters to spread our wings and fill in the gap for a young woman who is without a mom or “ANYONE” who needs our support during this season.  Remember, Luke 12:48 states, “But the one who does not know and does things deserving punishment will be beaten with few blows. From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded; and from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked.”  (NIV)

Continue to be a beacon of light,

 

~Shamenomore

Sip, Reflect, Let’s Talk: Principle # 1 Know What Happiness Is

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A glad heart makes a cheerful countenance (Proverbs 15:13 AMP)

What is happiness truly?  I’ve pondered this question as I have recently read an article in Essence entitled “10 Keys to Happiness” in the May 2012 issue by Nicole Saunders.  It was a great piece, which caused me to ponder am I really happy as a Sister Healing Against Mental Emotions™ (S.H.A.M.E.).  I personally believe that it’s empowering and important to find happiness in life when seeking spiritual wholeness as a woman after God’s own heart.  However, as a young Christian woman who has been hurt numerous times by friends, love ones, etc., I have secretly asked myself for years can happiness be difficult to fulfill when seeking physical, spiritual, and personal wellness.  Therefore, I’ve decided to challenge myself and challenge you as we Sip, Reflect, & Let’s Talk™ over the next ten weeks about each principle and how we view happiness in our own personal and professional lives.

Principle #1: Know What Happiness Is.  Really?  I’m currently in my thirties, and I have found it difficult in the past to secure true happiness.  I could deem myself successful in terms of owning a home, car, and obtaining various degrees throughout life.  However, do these tangible items truly bring me inner happiness?  I’ve said to myself, if I’m really going to tackle these principles weekly, then I must be completely honest with myself and my readers.  Many of my personal friends know that I’m divorced, I’m a single mom, I’m raising three kids (one of them my brother because my mom is disabled) and I’m always working (sometimes 40+ hours weekly) leaving no personal time for myself.  Educationally, I do understand the word happiness and its definition.  I’ve rationalized it; I’ve owned it; I’ve interpreted it, but at times, I honestly find it difficult to grab hold to it and implement it when I’ve suddenly become overwhelmed with life myself.  So, as I’ve embarked upon this journey of truly soul searching in terms of finding personal happiness, I’ve started here with these words according to Psalm 144:15 “Happy are the people whose God is the Lord” (NRSV).

Sometimes I think to myself that there is always an issue that attempts to steal my thunder just when I think that I’ve truly found personal happiness.  As a Sister Healing Against Mental Emotions™ (S.H.A.M.E.) I’ve attempted to strengthen my prayer life tremendously over the years.  I’ve surrounded myself with praying, positive women.   I’ve learned to take  ten or more minutes every morning before I start my day just to mediate and pull myself together before I start to juggle mommy and work.  And finally, I’ve learned how to say “NO” without feeling guilty.  In working to find my personal happiness, I’ve started to understand that I can’t worry about what other people think about me.  I’ve learned that in order for me to live an abundant life, I must have purpose in everything that I do as a woman after God’s own heart. 

Additionally, I’ve learned that I tend to grow weary when I’m not creative or at my best.  If I’m not stimulated with conversations, if I’m not growing [physically, mentally, or emotionally] with certain friendships, if my job doesn’t present frequent challenges, if my home environment exhibits disarray, or if my church home is not feeding me spiritually then maybe it’s time for an internal and external change… and that’s okay.  As a woman of God in search of my own happiness, I’ve learned daily that the only way that I can become the best me is by learning to accept who God has designed me to be even when others don’t agree with me.  My happiness and my freedom is everything…in terms of me developing holistically. 

My Sisters Healing Against Mental Emotions™ (S.H.A.M.E.), I want to challenge you to think about the last time you’ve lived life truly happy and with purpose.  Author Nicole Saunders (2012) states, “…you’re more likely to sabotage your own happiness simply by having unrealistic expectations of what it should look and feel like” (p. 133).  Wow!  These are truly powerful words to ponder this week.  If it’s not too much to ask, I would like all of us to journal about each principle in hopes of finding inner peace.  When embarking upon this journey to find happiness, ask yourself, what do you intend to change in your life to ensure that you find happiness? What do you intend to add to your life in hopes of finding happiness? Remember, in order to be truly happy, we must first find happiness within ourselves by finding inner peace by seeking God’s words, aligning these words within our daily lives, and we must start to implement His words according to His purpose for our lives. 

Find your happiness today,

~Shamenomore

Build a Lasting Friendship: S.H.A.M.E.

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Dear Sisters Healing Against Mental Emotions™ (S.H.A.M.E.):

Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven. (Matthew 5:16 KJV)

My breathe was taking away by the death of an Angel towards the weekend.  I couldn’t believe the phone calls, the Facebook messages, or the talk among family members and friends as they all echoed that she suffered a heart attack that caused a one car accident.  I was numb beyond disbelief.  This person was truly sent from Heaven by man’s standards.  It’s funny how nice people are taking away much too soon. That’s why 1 John 4:7 says, “Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.” (NIV)  That’s when I heard God whispered…the life one lives today will be the life people remember tomorrow.

I can’t believe my friend, cousin, and sister in Christ is gone in her late thirties.  Who would think that a young, vibrant woman would die of a sudden heart attack so young? This death shocked so many of us because of her age, her jubilant spirit for life and her heart to help others.  As women of God, can each of us honestly say that we could be voted friend, sister, mother, cousin, or wife of the year?  Can we justly say we extend ourselves to help others unselfishly, or should we admit that we only render help seeking a favor in return?  Remember, Proverbs 17:17 states, “A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need.” (NLT)

As Sisters Healing Against Mental Emotions™ (S.H.A.M.E.), it’s funny how God will make us stop in our tracks and think about the people who we could have helped more or hope that we could have recanted the “words of hurt” or “words of sorrow” that we’ve echoed out of rage.  That’s why it’s important that we tell people how much we care about them and give them their flowers while they are alive.  Oftentimes, we fail to show people that we don’t take them for granted until it is too late or the person has decided to part ways for good. Remember, 1 Peter 4:8 states, “Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love makes up many of your faults.” (TLB)

Therefore, I’ve learned that we live in a world where we take relationships [personally or professionally] for granted.  We speak slowly when expressing endearing words like I love you, we refuse to give hugs because we’ve become so sedated worrying about what others might think, or we fail to visit often because technology has become our silent non-emotional communicative device of choice.   Hum

The older I become the more I struggle with forming human relations or adequate strong bonds of sisterly relationships because of the fake overlays. I constantly have to remind myself that some of us fail to appreciate good relationships because we were never taught how to be a good friend, mother, sister, or partner.  I believe as women, we are nurturers by design; therefore, we love hard and we internalize hurt even deeper than our male counterparts to a degree.  That’s why it’s important that we work on forming lasting relationships that bring about balance and joy.  As women of God, we must remember according to 1 Corinthians 13:7 “If you love someone you will be loyal to him no matter what the cost.  You will always believe in him, always expect the best of him, and always stand your ground in defending him”. (TLB) Wow, what powerful words to live by daily.

As of today my sisters, pick up the phone a little often, drop a handwritten letter in the mail just to say I’m thinking about you, help make a meal, babysit for a day, surprise a friend with a love offering, take someone out to lunch, or even say a prayer for someone who needs it.  All these little components are important in life when forming strong, healthy relationships because if we implement 1 Corinthians 13:13 according to God’s words “There are three things that will endure-faith, hope, and love-and the greatest of these is love” (NLT) then we should be rich beyond our wildest dreams.

Build lasting relationships starting today,

~Shamenomore