Your Miracle Is Right Around the Corner

Around the corner

When I woke up this morning, I started to meditate.  I heard the small voice of God speaking. It’s amazing how God’s presence can change our perspective and change our entire day.  Not to get too personal, but as I was preparing breakfast this morning, I felt the visitation of God.  It was very strong.

First, God wants us to “COMMAND” our mornings. Take time to pray, meditate, exercise, journal, or self-reflect.  These strategies can help “set” the temperament for our entire day.  Daily, it’s imperative that we honor God by carving out time to converse with Him. When we fail to command our mornings by honoring God, distractions from the enemy can seep into our spirit causing physical and spiritual disruptions.  When we pray, we’re equipping ourselves to withstand the blows of the enemy.  Get rooted in the word when driving to work, while drinking coffee, or while sitting in bed aimlessly.  Every moment that we invite God in, we willfully build a spiritual bridge that allows us to tap into God’s purpose for our lives.  His word daily is food to our souls and nourishment for our bodies.

Next, God doesn’t want us to compromise.  We must stand strong, and we cannot compromise our well-being in this season.  Stay focus; stay mentally healthy; stress-free, and guilt-free. I must be honest; I use to compromise myself for the sake of fitting in with others.  But as I continually grow in Christ, God reminds me to stand on His word as a guide for my life as noted in Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV) where it is written that God has a plan for our lives.  It’s not to harm us, but these plans are to prosper us so that we’ll have hope as He guides and directs us into our future.  Therefore, we must stop compromising our peace.  Remember, God doesn’t function in dysfunction.  He’s a man of order. That’s why it’s important that we build a relationship with God and that we converse with Him daily as we “Command Our Mornings.”

Then, God wants us to trust HIM!!!  I believe that God’s building our FAITH in this season.  He’s building our faith with various test and trials.  Through these various test and trails, God is causing us to exercise our faith and depend totally on him.  For it is written in Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV), “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” 

Finally, God’s working a miracle in our lives.  Let’s stay strong and not sway from God when situations start to look weary.  Remember, God is watching during the test; he’s just quiet as He conducts an evaluation of our hearts and reactions to see if we’re walking by “faith” or walking by “sight”.



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Dear Future

My Friend,

I’m looking forward to my future.  Are you?  2015 is just around the corner and I can’t wait for God to reposition me and you…very soon.  God’s got something great in store for us.  Get ready.  Get excited.  Expect the unexpected.

Remember, change can be hard, but I feel like this time around for all of us who has weathered the storm, God’s on the verge of blessing us big time.  Prepare your heart to receive this blessing.  It’s going to be big, different, and may even be a bit overwhelming.  Just know, God’s in control— so get ready to receive the blessing(s) that’s about to flow into your life.

Action Plan

1#: Put God first.

2#: Pray.

3#: Show gratitude.

4#: Brace yourself for change.

5#: Be flexible.

6#: Live in the moment.

Dear Future


Excited About My Change…ShameNoMore

Be Who God Has Called You to Be


I know it’s been a while since my last post. But during my season of growth, I’ve learned that I can no longer afford to be who people want me to be, but I must continue to grow into the person that God has called me to be. And with that change, some people may decide to walk away…while others choose to help embrace my change.

Either way, I’m fine with the new me.  The wiser I become, the more I learn that I can no longer wear a MASK where I pretend daily to make others feel comfortable. I’ve been gifted with a calling. And that calling is to teach, speak, coach and help others to become Shame No More.

Lessons Learned

Life Lesson #1: I must walk in my truth.

Life Lesson #2: I must continuously shed my old skin.

Life Lesson #3: I must wear my new skin without SHAME.

Life Lesson #4: I must embrace the new me/transition fully.

Sign, I’m Back…ShameNoMore Be Who God

The Growing Pains of Life Is Just the Movement of God

Psalm 107: 19 says, “Then they cry unto the Lord in their trouble, and he saveth them out of their distresses.” (KJV)

Dear sisters in Christ,

I use to hear my grandmother say that God moves in mysterious ways.   Now, as an adult, I have a greater appreciation for this statement.  It never ceases to amaze me how it takes a decade or few seasons to come to terms with old-fashioned sayings from my past. As I continue to grow spiritually, I’ve come to realize that grandma had a relationship with God that I am only now growing to understand.

For example, growing pains are never enjoyable.  Sometimes they are overwhelming, which can cause EMBARRASSMENT and SHAME.  As women of God, it’s difficult to journey through life and understand the growing pains that contribute to successes or failures.  All growing pains aren’t negative, however.  That’s why it’s imperative for us to understand that God allows certain growing pains to promote us to the next chapter in our lives.

Be it a divorce, the death of a love one, an abusive relationship, demotion on a job, health concerns, or financial issues…growing pains are evitable.  However, it’s how we deal with these growing pains that determine our placements in life.  For instance, God allowed the SHAME of me being a single mother at the tender age of sixteen to teach me how to handle adversities with class, how to fight without ever having to pass a lick to impose bodily harm, and how to smile when the wasp stings were biting left and right…but God!  Remember, Psalm 107:20 clearly states, “He sent his word, and healed them, and delivered them from their destructions.” (KJV)

After looking back on this SHAME or what I like to call a growing pain, I decided to embrace my pain and turn it into a success story.  I didn’t allow this major growing pain to stop me from living a productive life as a teenager nor cripple me from furthering my education.  Instead, I decided to use this pain to make me a better mother, sister, co-worker, and friend.

Keep in mind that as sisters in Christ, we’ll always face an abundance of stumbling blocks and growing pains in life that attempt to hinder our daily walk with God.  These stumbling blocks and growing pains in life can cause various types of unforeseen issues if we’re not mindful of these demonic devices early-on.  That’s why it’s vital that we as sisters in Christ provide nurturing support for one another by exhibiting compassion, resilience, and the tenacity to beat the odds when the devil attempts to attack us daily.



A Shifting of Change: (S.H.A.M.E.)

Sister Healing Against Mental Emotions (S.H.A.M.E.)

Psalm 46: 10 He says, “Be still, and know that I am God; I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth.”

Hello Sisters Healing Against Mental Emotions(S.H.A.M.E.):

I know it’s been a while since anyone has last heard from me, but sometimes words take time to formulate when hearing from God.  Over the last several weeks, I have witness various sisters undergoing numerous changes in their lives be it positive or negative.  Change is defined by as (2012) “to transform or convert.”  As I continue to grow spiritually, I’ve come to understand that change is needed in an effort to shift gears when God is moving in one’s life.  Romans 12:2 states, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is —his good, pleasing and perfect will.” (NIV) Therefore, as I continue to journey while accepting change without choice or discourse, I believe in my heart that in order to embrace change fully, I must conform without reservations and allow God to use me as He sees fit.

First, I must conform to God’s plan wholeheartedly without backlash.  I must admit, it’s hard to conform to change when life feels like a twenty foot tsunami raging out of control.  What I’ve found is that I cannot limit God, cut a deal, or even rationalize as to why [this is happening or that is happening].  Nonetheless, it’s amazing how I always seem to come back to one analysis and that is He knows best in terms of my life.  Even when I do not understand why major shifts happen, why certain deviations take shape, or why sorrowful situations occur to good people…one thing is certain, He’s working it out behind closed doors. According to 1 John 5:4 “Every child of God can defeat the world, and our faith is what gives us this victory” (CEV).

Second, I’ve found that it’s inevitable to lose some people along the way when shifting to the next level.  I must admit that change hurts, but as a Sister Healing Against Mental Emotions™ (S.H.A.M.E.) daily, I’ve come to understand that some changes just don’t make sense to the carnal eye.  It’s difficult to conceptualize each purpose right away when God closes one door, reopens a past door, or opens a new door.  That’s happened a lot lately in this season and with each closing, reopening, or opening of a new door, I’ve come to understand that a spiritual shift is sure to happen every time.  But, I have learned that when God closes one door even if it hurts and I may not understand it at that time, He always heals the wound and opens another door.

Third, change hurts.  No one enjoys pain, but with growth comes growing pains.  Oftentimes in life, we’ve become complacent. Thus, complacency breeds stagnation.  As women of God, we cannot allow complacency to stop our growing pains in life.  I’ve come to know that in order to birth my vision, I must undergo the “Labor Pains” of life.  Those of us who have had the opportunity to bear children understand these pains quite well.  However, the end reward is sweet when the vision is birth into fruition.

Fourth, change is never consistent.  In life, I’ve come to expect the unexpected.  Therefore, when God is shifting me left, I turn left.  When I feel that he’s shifting me right, I turn right.  However, when I feel that I’m uncertain as to where he’s shifting me, that’s when I press my spiritual breaks, get quiet, adhere to the word, and wait on him. But, during this cycle of postponement is when I become most antsy like a child wanting a piece of candy from the candy jar, but my father is saying, “No, not now!  Just wait a little while longer.”

Finally, life and death is in the power of the tongue.  If I will it, so will it be.  Therefore, speaking positivity is detrimental to living a fulfilling and powerful life. It states in Proverbs 18:21 “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” (NIV)  My unspoken words have just as much power as my spoken words.  Therefore, I think therefore I am.

In any case, as I continue my spiritual journey of reflection and connectivity with God, it’s imperative that I have balance and associate myself with likeminded people in this season.  While waiting patiently, I’ve come to realize that I need to consistently renew my spirit with the edification of His words, while he’s transforming me into a dynamic Sister Healing Against Mental Emotions™ (S.H.A.M.E.).

With sisterly love,


Build a Lasting Friendship: S.H.A.M.E.

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Dear Sisters Healing Against Mental Emotions™ (S.H.A.M.E.):

Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven. (Matthew 5:16 KJV)

My breathe was taking away by the death of an Angel towards the weekend.  I couldn’t believe the phone calls, the Facebook messages, or the talk among family members and friends as they all echoed that she suffered a heart attack that caused a one car accident.  I was numb beyond disbelief.  This person was truly sent from Heaven by man’s standards.  It’s funny how nice people are taking away much too soon. That’s why 1 John 4:7 says, “Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.” (NIV)  That’s when I heard God whispered…the life one lives today will be the life people remember tomorrow.

I can’t believe my friend, cousin, and sister in Christ is gone in her late thirties.  Who would think that a young, vibrant woman would die of a sudden heart attack so young? This death shocked so many of us because of her age, her jubilant spirit for life and her heart to help others.  As women of God, can each of us honestly say that we could be voted friend, sister, mother, cousin, or wife of the year?  Can we justly say we extend ourselves to help others unselfishly, or should we admit that we only render help seeking a favor in return?  Remember, Proverbs 17:17 states, “A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need.” (NLT)

As Sisters Healing Against Mental Emotions™ (S.H.A.M.E.), it’s funny how God will make us stop in our tracks and think about the people who we could have helped more or hope that we could have recanted the “words of hurt” or “words of sorrow” that we’ve echoed out of rage.  That’s why it’s important that we tell people how much we care about them and give them their flowers while they are alive.  Oftentimes, we fail to show people that we don’t take them for granted until it is too late or the person has decided to part ways for good. Remember, 1 Peter 4:8 states, “Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love makes up many of your faults.” (TLB)

Therefore, I’ve learned that we live in a world where we take relationships [personally or professionally] for granted.  We speak slowly when expressing endearing words like I love you, we refuse to give hugs because we’ve become so sedated worrying about what others might think, or we fail to visit often because technology has become our silent non-emotional communicative device of choice.   Hum

The older I become the more I struggle with forming human relations or adequate strong bonds of sisterly relationships because of the fake overlays. I constantly have to remind myself that some of us fail to appreciate good relationships because we were never taught how to be a good friend, mother, sister, or partner.  I believe as women, we are nurturers by design; therefore, we love hard and we internalize hurt even deeper than our male counterparts to a degree.  That’s why it’s important that we work on forming lasting relationships that bring about balance and joy.  As women of God, we must remember according to 1 Corinthians 13:7 “If you love someone you will be loyal to him no matter what the cost.  You will always believe in him, always expect the best of him, and always stand your ground in defending him”. (TLB) Wow, what powerful words to live by daily.

As of today my sisters, pick up the phone a little often, drop a handwritten letter in the mail just to say I’m thinking about you, help make a meal, babysit for a day, surprise a friend with a love offering, take someone out to lunch, or even say a prayer for someone who needs it.  All these little components are important in life when forming strong, healthy relationships because if we implement 1 Corinthians 13:13 according to God’s words “There are three things that will endure-faith, hope, and love-and the greatest of these is love” (NLT) then we should be rich beyond our wildest dreams.

Build lasting relationships starting today,