This Is Your Year-Dream Big

Feed Your Dream

You will MANIFEST your dream in 2015!  No longer will you sit on the sidelines watching everyone else DREAM big and activate their dream.  No longer will you think to yourself, “Hey, that should be me!”  This year, you will walk it out. This year, you will work hard.  This year, you will watch your words.  This year, you will FEED YOUR DREAM because this year, YOUR DREAM MATTERS while you work diligently to apply three simple strategies that work…starting now.

Step #1: Cultivate your dream.  In order to birth your DREAM safely in this season, you must cultivate it.  Your dream needs daily maintenance.  Give it proper attention.  Your dream will not flourish nor survive in weak soil.  Support your foundation with robust resources and strategies.  Otherwise, your dream will perish.

Step #2: Speak life into your dream.  Watch your words.  Speak positive daily “affirmations”.  Don’t allow negative words to impact your dream.  Negative words can seep into your spirit and suffocate your dream.  Proverbs 18:21 warns, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.” Choose your words carefully, and then, align your words with realistic, actionable steps.

Step #3: Prune your dream.  Your dream will not grow if you continuously hang on to old thoughts and mannerisms. Growth comes through pruning, and pruning brings forth abundance when clipped in the right season.   In short, snip away parts that fail to flourish.  Remember, pruning is a critical maintenance process.

Repeat Your Dream Affirmation: My Dream Is Manifesting Right Now!  I believe it.  I speak life into it.  I see it.  I feel it.   I can achieve it.  I start today by believing in my SUCCESS because DREAMS do come true and I will (RE)vive My Dream in 2015!

Dream big,

ShameNoMore

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Release, Relief, or Relive

God has a super master plan for your life.  Don’t remain stuck in a rut because you’re weighed down with guilt or shame.  Instead, find the power to RELEASE those negative emotions.   The struggle for inner-peace is an ongoing battle, which causes significant stress.   This negative emotion can often make you feel reclusive, agitated or aloof.

But as you prepare for the next four days to welcome the month of February, think positively.   Take a moment and reflect.  Ponder how you can invite healing and restoration into your life by releasing pent up issues from your past.  The suppressing of pent up frustration, from past issues, can hinder the positive progression in your life.  Remember, God wants you to live an active life where you’re happy daily—not fighting depression, low self-esteem, guilt or shame.

Step #1: Learn ‘how-to’ positively release your ‘pent up’ issues.  You must RELEASE your GUILT or SHAME.  Let it go.  Cast your worries unto the Lord.  For Philippians 4:13 (KJV) reminds us “I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.”  Christ will give you the power to overcome every affliction or battle that’s hindering the progression of positive growth in your life.  For example, you can implement the following strategies weekly: pray, meditate, or journal.   Just these three simple strategies alone can evoke peace and balance in your life.  Remember, you are a child of God.  God doesn’t want to see you struggle.  Don’t allow GUILT or SHAME to hinder the blessings that God destined for you in 2015.

Step #2: Find relief in this season.  The longer you carry those feelings of guilt or shame around, the longer you’ll battle with those ‘pent up feelings’.  Do yourself a favor.  Find some RELIEF.   As a Christian, your peace is everything.  When you’re seeking deliverance and “RELIEF” in your life, start with some simple steps:

  • accept the “problem” at face value
  • receive your part in the “problem”
  • forgive completely
  • forgive yourself wholeheartedly
  • bury the issue

In life, finding RELIEF is an active strategy that will help you unwind in a healthy manner.   I’ve listed several strategies above, but the primary strategy is keeping calm and accepting the “problem” at face value.  For some people, it’s difficult to accept the truth because the truth hurts.  If you’re feeling pain, then it means that something is wrong.  Accept your part in the problem, find a solution to alleviate your pain…like forgiving the person(s) entirely, and then forgive yourself wholly, and bury the issue for good.   Listen; don’t relieve the pain temporarily but permanently.

Step #3: Release the issue, find relief, or relive the test.  When you’re suffering intensely with guilt or shame, oppressive battles within your mind can consume you.  Don’t keep reliving a life of GUILT or SHAME.  It steals your peace.   That’s why it’s time to let go and let God heal all the broken pieces in this season.  Let me suggest two simple strategies.

Strategy #1:

Write a letter.  Address it… (Dear Hurt, Dear Pain, Dear Guilt, etc.).   You get the picture.  List every issue, hurt, guilt, shame, etc., which has stolen your joy and peace.   Write down how and why it’s kept you captive for years.  Now, tell the “issue” or “problem” why it will NO longer keep you hostage.   Seal the letter.  Then, locate a ‘safe’ place and burn it.

As your letter burns, walk away slowly without looking back…all the while repeating, “I AM NOT MY PAST.  I WILL NO LONGER ALLOW THIS GUILT, HURT, or SHAME to consume me or steal my peace.”  Do not look back, or you’ll risk the burden of reconnecting with your problem.  Your life is much too valuable for that.

Strategy #2:

Listen to my awesome FREE audio download titled: Release, Relief, or Relive.   Share it, and I hope this audio minister to your heart.

Please freely “SHARE” this word.  Remember, Psalm 55:22 says, “Cast they burden upon the Lord, and he shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be moved.”  You got this…

Praying for you always, XOXO

Leslie E. Brown/ShameNoMore™

Transformation Discovery Coach

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Your Miracle Is Right Around the Corner

Around the corner

When I woke up this morning, I started to meditate.  I heard the small voice of God speaking. It’s amazing how God’s presence can change our perspective and change our entire day.  Not to get too personal, but as I was preparing breakfast this morning, I felt the visitation of God.  It was very strong.

First, God wants us to “COMMAND” our mornings. Take time to pray, meditate, exercise, journal, or self-reflect.  These strategies can help “set” the temperament for our entire day.  Daily, it’s imperative that we honor God by carving out time to converse with Him. When we fail to command our mornings by honoring God, distractions from the enemy can seep into our spirit causing physical and spiritual disruptions.  When we pray, we’re equipping ourselves to withstand the blows of the enemy.  Get rooted in the word when driving to work, while drinking coffee, or while sitting in bed aimlessly.  Every moment that we invite God in, we willfully build a spiritual bridge that allows us to tap into God’s purpose for our lives.  His word daily is food to our souls and nourishment for our bodies.

Next, God doesn’t want us to compromise.  We must stand strong, and we cannot compromise our well-being in this season.  Stay focus; stay mentally healthy; stress-free, and guilt-free. I must be honest; I use to compromise myself for the sake of fitting in with others.  But as I continually grow in Christ, God reminds me to stand on His word as a guide for my life as noted in Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV) where it is written that God has a plan for our lives.  It’s not to harm us, but these plans are to prosper us so that we’ll have hope as He guides and directs us into our future.  Therefore, we must stop compromising our peace.  Remember, God doesn’t function in dysfunction.  He’s a man of order. That’s why it’s important that we build a relationship with God and that we converse with Him daily as we “Command Our Mornings.”

Then, God wants us to trust HIM!!!  I believe that God’s building our FAITH in this season.  He’s building our faith with various test and trials.  Through these various test and trails, God is causing us to exercise our faith and depend totally on him.  For it is written in Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV), “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” 

Finally, God’s working a miracle in our lives.  Let’s stay strong and not sway from God when situations start to look weary.  Remember, God is watching during the test; he’s just quiet as He conducts an evaluation of our hearts and reactions to see if we’re walking by “faith” or walking by “sight”.

Sincerely,

~ShameNoMore

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Thank You Lord for a Fresh Wind

Fresh Wind

Dear Hurt,

I’ve known you for quite some time.  At one point, I even tried to befriend you.  What’s crazy— is that I’ve felt how you’ve invaded my space.  I’ve seen how you’ve hurt people close to me, and I’ve even inhaled the remnants of your scent that you’ve left lingering behind on numerous occasions.  I’ve tried countless times to evict you, but oddly enough, you’ve crept through the smallest cracks buried deeply within the crevices of my bleeding heart.

I fondly remember the first time you cut me deeply. I was young, barely in my teens when you showed up making promises of befriending me…protecting me…and soothing me as a teen mom.  For years, I’ve tried to escape the poisonous venom that your bite marks left behind, but just like a snake, you slithered your way back into my life with no regard for good will.

But then again, I thank God for a fresh wind, another chance to stand— a renewal of energy to fight and not suffer in silence or shame.  No longer will the numbness, lustful sensation, or the overwhelming fear to doubt God’s purpose for my life abort my will to reposition myself firmly or reap the benefits that He’s spoken over my life.  I know that God  has destined greatness for my life.  And as a worshiper, I must only believe.

I hope you can forgive me, but the time has come where I will no longer live in SHAME because of you.   When I look in the mirror, all I see are the secret lies you’ve told me that you’ve whispered faintly in my ear.   I’ve deleted those files titled “Lies”, and I’ve pressed the button that reads ‘Empty Recycle Bin’ too just in case I have the urge to retrieve you.

Goodbye and Good Riddance,

A Second Wind…ShameNoMore

Dear Future

My Friend,

I’m looking forward to my future.  Are you?  2015 is just around the corner and I can’t wait for God to reposition me and you…very soon.  God’s got something great in store for us.  Get ready.  Get excited.  Expect the unexpected.

Remember, change can be hard, but I feel like this time around for all of us who has weathered the storm, God’s on the verge of blessing us big time.  Prepare your heart to receive this blessing.  It’s going to be big, different, and may even be a bit overwhelming.  Just know, God’s in control— so get ready to receive the blessing(s) that’s about to flow into your life.

Action Plan

1#: Put God first.

2#: Pray.

3#: Show gratitude.

4#: Brace yourself for change.

5#: Be flexible.

6#: Live in the moment.

Dear Future

Sign,

Excited About My Change…ShameNoMore

Be Who God Has Called You to Be

Hey,

I know it’s been a while since my last post. But during my season of growth, I’ve learned that I can no longer afford to be who people want me to be, but I must continue to grow into the person that God has called me to be. And with that change, some people may decide to walk away…while others choose to help embrace my change.

Either way, I’m fine with the new me.  The wiser I become, the more I learn that I can no longer wear a MASK where I pretend daily to make others feel comfortable. I’ve been gifted with a calling. And that calling is to teach, speak, coach and help others to become Shame No More.

Lessons Learned

Life Lesson #1: I must walk in my truth.

Life Lesson #2: I must continuously shed my old skin.

Life Lesson #3: I must wear my new skin without SHAME.

Life Lesson #4: I must embrace the new me/transition fully.

Sign, I’m Back…ShameNoMore Be Who God

Sip, Reflect & Let’s Talk~Principle #2: Accentuate The Positive

Let us draw near to God with a sincere heart in full assurance of faith. (Hebrews 10:22, NIV)

Hello Ladies,

Today is a great day, and I’m excited to share Principle #2: Accentuate The Positives from Nicole Saunders “10 Keys To Happiness” article that’s written inside Essences May 2012 issue.  I’ve found this principle to be noteworthy as I mediate and reflect deeply in finding and embracing my own happiness over the next ten weeks.  As I sit on my front porch, I’m thinking about two things: First, how do I fully accentuate my positives in terms of defining my truth as a woman? Second, how do I stop telling my “story” in the words of Iyanla Vanzant and begin to tell my real story.   Saunders (2012) states in Principle #2: Accentuate The Positives:

“People who focus on good past experiences and reinterpret negative ones in a more pleasant light tend to be happier.  “Counting blessings doesn’t mean you have to be naïve,” says Chris Peterson, a psychology professor at the University of Michigan.  The world can be cruel and you shouldn’t deny the terrible things that may have happened, but the world can also be wondrous.  It’s up to you to decide on which truth to dwell.” (p. 133)

Pretty much, Iyana supports a belief like Saunders in her own words as I watched Oprah’s Life Class: the Tour Iyanla Vanzant on Stopping Pain yesterday.  It was a great piece, which allowed me to rethink Principle #2: Accentuate The Positives in terms of what Nicole Saunders was declaring. Iyanla states that you have to stop telling your “own” story and embrace the “truth” in terms of your pain in order to fully heal while finding your happy place. 

At sixteen I became pregnant [that’s my truth].  Yes, I embodied this stigma and understood these words immensely before these words became a hit show Sixteen and Pregnant. I often wondered how a smart girl like me found herself at such a disadvantage so young.  By the grace of God, I was still able to complete my studies by sixteen; I continued to make good grades; I participated in sports, I graduated early from high school, and I even entered college early. I was determined to make it out of that rural area and show myself and the world that that poor decision one fall night would not determine my fate in life.

Over the past couple of years, people have always asked me, how did it feel being a single mom at such an early age?  I have thought about this question often, and I believed to this day that that very unconscionable choice has helped shape who I am today.  After reading and digesting Principle #2 and pondering the words of Iyanla, I said to myself that in order to accentuate the positives, I must first “stop telling my story” and tell my real story.   In hopes of helping my Sisters Healing Against Mental Emotions™ (S.H.A.M.E.) accentuate their positives and tell their truth, I’ve posted the clip below from Oprah’s Life Class: the Tour Iyanla Vanzant on Stopping Pain.

http://www.oprah.com/oprahs-lifeclass/Full-Episode-Oprahs-Lifeclass-the-Tour-with-Iyanla-Vanzant

For some reason, a lot of people think that you set out to be a teen mom.  However,  that mistake for me was about me filling a void deep within looking for love in all the wrong places as a teenager whose father died in a horrible car accident at the hands of a drunk driver.  As a young Christian woman after God’s own heart, my light bulb went off at that very moment and I couldn’t believe how often times we “tell” our story [the way we see it] but we never tell the truth in terms of the root causes that encompass our “true” pain.  So, as I continue to ponder Principle #2: Accentuate The Positives, I will continue to work on “telling” my true story in order to receive full healing in terms of accentuating my positives and living a happy life.

Accentuate your positives and let’s start talking,

~Shamenomore

I’ve learned that no mat…

I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life. I’ve learned that making a “living” is not the same thing as making a “life.” I’ve learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back. I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision. I’ve learned that even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one. I’ve learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. I’ve learned that I still have a lot to learn. I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.― Maya Angelou

Words of Wisdom from Maya Angelou