Stay Calm

Be Still

God’s word in Matthew 11:28-30 declares, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”(NIV) Wow! Living in a season of frustration is strong enough to break a camel’s back.  But as you whether the storm, do not allow the spirit of frustration to steal your love, peace, happiness or joy. It’s not God’s plan for you to feel an overwhelming sense of frustration daily.  Believe it or not, God doesn’t want your heart to be troubled. Instead, He wants you to smile and live happily without the burden of frustration.

God’s plan for your life is to live life and live it more abundantly. Abundant living is peaceful living. It’s living without constant distractions. Think about it; peace should provide a comfort level that surpasses all understanding. When you establish total peace, your entire life transforms.

That’s why the devil understands that frustrating you distracts you from God’s purposeful design for your life. When the enemy bombards you with frustration; you fail to live at your fullest potential. You become short-tempered, spiteful or neglectful. That’s the plan of the enemy. He wants to distract your attention from living life at its highest peek.

Let’s dig deeper! Happiness doesn’t merely exist when you’re frustrated nor does peace permeate the atmosphere. Learn to create peace. It may sound difficult at first “creating peace”, but it’s worth the try. When you embody peace, you create an atmosphere that’s inviting to you and everyone align to you. By creating this soothing comfort zone, you begin to shut out life’s negativity.

When creating a ‘frustration-free zone’, infuse the powerful practice of gratitude. By tapping into your happy place and practicing gratitude, you learn to defuse those negative energies that attempt to consume and capsize your day. Believe me, when you’re happy, everyone around you gleans from that happiness.

In an effort to rid frustration, plan to set aside time in the mornings to meditate and give thanks. You can do this by creating a ‘frustration-free zone’ in your home. Establish a playlist of calming music, affirmations, prayers, etc. Light soft, white candles. Purchase comfy, large, colorful pillows. Sit on them in a comfortable position. Breathe deeply. Close your eyes, as you inhale and exhale. Visualize positive imagines that make you smile. Create a positive energy around you. Connect with yourself on a spiritual level and give thanks.

Trust me.  You have what it takes to live life and live it more abundantly.  But in order to live life peacefully, you must learn to believe that you deserve peace everyday unapologetically.   This is your season to take back your life and walk in your authentic self.

Stay Calm not Frustrated,

ShameNoMore, XOXO
Transformation Discovery Coach

You Are Not Your Past

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You are not your past.  This is your season to live and not hide behind your salty tears.  So often in life, you may hide behind hurt words or shameful acts that hinder your growth or spiritual walk.  In this season,  I believe that God’s calling you to operate on a higher level.  He’s calling me and you to live beyond hurt words, empty promises, or illusions that are holding me and you hostage as I’ve spoken about in my YouTube video below.

I vividly remember the first day I found out I was becoming a mom for the first time at sixteen.  My tears consumed me like raging water that broke free from a vulnerable dam.   My heart ached.  My throat became so enlarged as if I had swallowed an entire apple.  I felt numbed.  I couldn’t move.  I was young.  I was ashamed.

For the longest time, people talked about me.  My classmates, community members, and church members spoke negatively about my condition as if I was the first person ever to have a baby out of wedlock. Through all the negative talk, I distinctively recalled wanting to hear positive words of encouragement, but instead, I was left feeling ostracized.

As I continuously grow in my Christian walk today,  I often think of that difficult time in my life.  I think about the power of words…my words…my actions.  I  contemplate how those very words tarnished my heart, broke bonds and stripped me bare without ever touching me.

Daily, I think about the number of people that suffer from SHAME because they secretively live in the past.  Today, I understand the power of setting myself free. It’s refreshing not living the lies of others.  I won’t lie.  Freedom comes at a price, and sometimes that price is walking away from negative people who attempt to hold you “emotionally hostage” concerning your past.

Therefore, as you read these words, understand that God loves you so much because He is not a ‘respector of persons’. He validates His love to you daily.  He wants you to live a liberating life where you are no longer ashamed of who you are.  I did it and so can you.  How did I do it?  I started by implementing the following proactive strategies:

1.) I was honest with myself.

2.) I forgave myself.

3.) I learned how to love myself.

4.) I set healthy boundaries.

5.) I forgave those who hurt me.

6.) I live my truth.

7.) I pray daily.

8.) I laugh a lot.

9.) I meditate.

10.) I befriend positive people.

I hope these words minister to your heart.  Please share and comment. I always look forward to reading your replies. Or, if you like, drop me a personal message at shamenomore001@gmail.com.

You are not your past,

Leslie a/k/a ShameNoMore

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Your Transformation Starts Now-Visualize It

Be Who God

Your transformation starts right now with the renewing of your mind.  Yes.  Transformation takes time, but change can happen.   Roman 12:2 (KJV) says, “And be conformed to this word: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”  Starting today, you can live the best you. Grow from your hurt, pain, or shameful past.  Stand tall. Tell yourself that you’re beautiful.  Walk with confidence.  Breathe.

Step #1: Be honest with yourself.  You only have one life.  Today you will live.  You will not shrink behind the shadows of a beautiful friend, loquacious partner, tedious job, rambunctious child(ren) or social media.  Instead, you will work on being honest with yourself.   Ask yourself, “What do I seek to change?”  Visualize your plan.  Determine “why” this change is significant. Understand how the strategy “visualization” can help speed up your transformation process.

Step #2: Visualize your change.  Your change starts the moment you create a mental picture in your mind.  Visualization can help you gain control of your life.  Daily, you must work on visualizing your success, happiness, or peace.  Take control of your life. Transform your mind…starting now.  If you want transformation to happen in your life, visualize it “DAILY”.

Step #3: Visualize, activate, and transform your thoughts.  Locate and create a peaceful environment.  Play music that’s calming if it will help you relax.  Light candles.  Close your eyes.  Breathe slowly.  Meditate.  Clear your mind.  Think about what you want to transform.  If you are seeking a new job, visualize that job.  Create positive thoughts centered around securing this new position.  See your new desk.   Imagine your new office.  Visualize your title.  Take ownership of your success.  Expect an excellent salary.  Consider your positive influence on others.  Can’t you see your success?!

You are changing for the better.  Don’t compromise.  Everything you’ve been through has prepared you for this moment. You are stronger than ever.  You have the tenacity to live the best you!   Take time, listen to my audio download titled: Fire Equals Transformation.  Remember, the moment you decide to transform your mind– that is the moment you will change your condition.

Your transformation starts now,

ShameNoMore

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This Is Your Year-Dream Big

Feed Your Dream

You will MANIFEST your dream in 2015!  No longer will you sit on the sidelines watching everyone else DREAM big and activate their dream.  No longer will you think to yourself, “Hey, that should be me!”  This year, you will walk it out. This year, you will work hard.  This year, you will watch your words.  This year, you will FEED YOUR DREAM because this year, YOUR DREAM MATTERS while you work diligently to apply three simple strategies that work…starting now.

Step #1: Cultivate your dream.  In order to birth your DREAM safely in this season, you must cultivate it.  Your dream needs daily maintenance.  Give it proper attention.  Your dream will not flourish nor survive in weak soil.  Support your foundation with robust resources and strategies.  Otherwise, your dream will perish.

Step #2: Speak life into your dream.  Watch your words.  Speak positive daily “affirmations”.  Don’t allow negative words to impact your dream.  Negative words can seep into your spirit and suffocate your dream.  Proverbs 18:21 warns, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.” Choose your words carefully, and then, align your words with realistic, actionable steps.

Step #3: Prune your dream.  Your dream will not grow if you continuously hang on to old thoughts and mannerisms. Growth comes through pruning, and pruning brings forth abundance when clipped in the right season.   In short, snip away parts that fail to flourish.  Remember, pruning is a critical maintenance process.

Repeat Your Dream Affirmation: My Dream Is Manifesting Right Now!  I believe it.  I speak life into it.  I see it.  I feel it.   I can achieve it.  I start today by believing in my SUCCESS because DREAMS do come true and I will (RE)vive My Dream in 2015!

Dream big,

ShameNoMore

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