You Are Not Your Past

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You are not your past.  This is your season to live and not hide behind your salty tears.  So often in life, you may hide behind hurt words or shameful acts that hinder your growth or spiritual walk.  In this season,  I believe that God’s calling you to operate on a higher level.  He’s calling me and you to live beyond hurt words, empty promises, or illusions that are holding me and you hostage as I’ve spoken about in my YouTube video below.

I vividly remember the first day I found out I was becoming a mom for the first time at sixteen.  My tears consumed me like raging water that broke free from a vulnerable dam.   My heart ached.  My throat became so enlarged as if I had swallowed an entire apple.  I felt numbed.  I couldn’t move.  I was young.  I was ashamed.

For the longest time, people talked about me.  My classmates, community members, and church members spoke negatively about my condition as if I was the first person ever to have a baby out of wedlock. Through all the negative talk, I distinctively recalled wanting to hear positive words of encouragement, but instead, I was left feeling ostracized.

As I continuously grow in my Christian walk today,  I often think of that difficult time in my life.  I think about the power of words…my words…my actions.  I  contemplate how those very words tarnished my heart, broke bonds and stripped me bare without ever touching me.

Daily, I think about the number of people that suffer from SHAME because they secretively live in the past.  Today, I understand the power of setting myself free. It’s refreshing not living the lies of others.  I won’t lie.  Freedom comes at a price, and sometimes that price is walking away from negative people who attempt to hold you “emotionally hostage” concerning your past.

Therefore, as you read these words, understand that God loves you so much because He is not a ‘respector of persons’. He validates His love to you daily.  He wants you to live a liberating life where you are no longer ashamed of who you are.  I did it and so can you.  How did I do it?  I started by implementing the following proactive strategies:

1.) I was honest with myself.

2.) I forgave myself.

3.) I learned how to love myself.

4.) I set healthy boundaries.

5.) I forgave those who hurt me.

6.) I live my truth.

7.) I pray daily.

8.) I laugh a lot.

9.) I meditate.

10.) I befriend positive people.

I hope these words minister to your heart.  Please share and comment. I always look forward to reading your replies. Or, if you like, drop me a personal message at shamenomore001@gmail.com.

You are not your past,

Leslie a/k/a ShameNoMore

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This Is Your Year-Dream Big

Feed Your Dream

You will MANIFEST your dream in 2015!  No longer will you sit on the sidelines watching everyone else DREAM big and activate their dream.  No longer will you think to yourself, “Hey, that should be me!”  This year, you will walk it out. This year, you will work hard.  This year, you will watch your words.  This year, you will FEED YOUR DREAM because this year, YOUR DREAM MATTERS while you work diligently to apply three simple strategies that work…starting now.

Step #1: Cultivate your dream.  In order to birth your DREAM safely in this season, you must cultivate it.  Your dream needs daily maintenance.  Give it proper attention.  Your dream will not flourish nor survive in weak soil.  Support your foundation with robust resources and strategies.  Otherwise, your dream will perish.

Step #2: Speak life into your dream.  Watch your words.  Speak positive daily “affirmations”.  Don’t allow negative words to impact your dream.  Negative words can seep into your spirit and suffocate your dream.  Proverbs 18:21 warns, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.” Choose your words carefully, and then, align your words with realistic, actionable steps.

Step #3: Prune your dream.  Your dream will not grow if you continuously hang on to old thoughts and mannerisms. Growth comes through pruning, and pruning brings forth abundance when clipped in the right season.   In short, snip away parts that fail to flourish.  Remember, pruning is a critical maintenance process.

Repeat Your Dream Affirmation: My Dream Is Manifesting Right Now!  I believe it.  I speak life into it.  I see it.  I feel it.   I can achieve it.  I start today by believing in my SUCCESS because DREAMS do come true and I will (RE)vive My Dream in 2015!

Dream big,

ShameNoMore

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Release, Relief, or Relive

God has a super master plan for your life.  Don’t remain stuck in a rut because you’re weighed down with guilt or shame.  Instead, find the power to RELEASE those negative emotions.   The struggle for inner-peace is an ongoing battle, which causes significant stress.   This negative emotion can often make you feel reclusive, agitated or aloof.

But as you prepare for the next four days to welcome the month of February, think positively.   Take a moment and reflect.  Ponder how you can invite healing and restoration into your life by releasing pent up issues from your past.  The suppressing of pent up frustration, from past issues, can hinder the positive progression in your life.  Remember, God wants you to live an active life where you’re happy daily—not fighting depression, low self-esteem, guilt or shame.

Step #1: Learn ‘how-to’ positively release your ‘pent up’ issues.  You must RELEASE your GUILT or SHAME.  Let it go.  Cast your worries unto the Lord.  For Philippians 4:13 (KJV) reminds us “I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.”  Christ will give you the power to overcome every affliction or battle that’s hindering the progression of positive growth in your life.  For example, you can implement the following strategies weekly: pray, meditate, or journal.   Just these three simple strategies alone can evoke peace and balance in your life.  Remember, you are a child of God.  God doesn’t want to see you struggle.  Don’t allow GUILT or SHAME to hinder the blessings that God destined for you in 2015.

Step #2: Find relief in this season.  The longer you carry those feelings of guilt or shame around, the longer you’ll battle with those ‘pent up feelings’.  Do yourself a favor.  Find some RELIEF.   As a Christian, your peace is everything.  When you’re seeking deliverance and “RELIEF” in your life, start with some simple steps:

  • accept the “problem” at face value
  • receive your part in the “problem”
  • forgive completely
  • forgive yourself wholeheartedly
  • bury the issue

In life, finding RELIEF is an active strategy that will help you unwind in a healthy manner.   I’ve listed several strategies above, but the primary strategy is keeping calm and accepting the “problem” at face value.  For some people, it’s difficult to accept the truth because the truth hurts.  If you’re feeling pain, then it means that something is wrong.  Accept your part in the problem, find a solution to alleviate your pain…like forgiving the person(s) entirely, and then forgive yourself wholly, and bury the issue for good.   Listen; don’t relieve the pain temporarily but permanently.

Step #3: Release the issue, find relief, or relive the test.  When you’re suffering intensely with guilt or shame, oppressive battles within your mind can consume you.  Don’t keep reliving a life of GUILT or SHAME.  It steals your peace.   That’s why it’s time to let go and let God heal all the broken pieces in this season.  Let me suggest two simple strategies.

Strategy #1:

Write a letter.  Address it… (Dear Hurt, Dear Pain, Dear Guilt, etc.).   You get the picture.  List every issue, hurt, guilt, shame, etc., which has stolen your joy and peace.   Write down how and why it’s kept you captive for years.  Now, tell the “issue” or “problem” why it will NO longer keep you hostage.   Seal the letter.  Then, locate a ‘safe’ place and burn it.

As your letter burns, walk away slowly without looking back…all the while repeating, “I AM NOT MY PAST.  I WILL NO LONGER ALLOW THIS GUILT, HURT, or SHAME to consume me or steal my peace.”  Do not look back, or you’ll risk the burden of reconnecting with your problem.  Your life is much too valuable for that.

Strategy #2:

Listen to my awesome FREE audio download titled: Release, Relief, or Relive.   Share it, and I hope this audio minister to your heart.

Please freely “SHARE” this word.  Remember, Psalm 55:22 says, “Cast they burden upon the Lord, and he shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be moved.”  You got this…

Praying for you always, XOXO

Leslie E. Brown/ShameNoMore™

Transformation Discovery Coach

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Your Miracle Is Right Around the Corner

Around the corner

When I woke up this morning, I started to meditate.  I heard the small voice of God speaking. It’s amazing how God’s presence can change our perspective and change our entire day.  Not to get too personal, but as I was preparing breakfast this morning, I felt the visitation of God.  It was very strong.

First, God wants us to “COMMAND” our mornings. Take time to pray, meditate, exercise, journal, or self-reflect.  These strategies can help “set” the temperament for our entire day.  Daily, it’s imperative that we honor God by carving out time to converse with Him. When we fail to command our mornings by honoring God, distractions from the enemy can seep into our spirit causing physical and spiritual disruptions.  When we pray, we’re equipping ourselves to withstand the blows of the enemy.  Get rooted in the word when driving to work, while drinking coffee, or while sitting in bed aimlessly.  Every moment that we invite God in, we willfully build a spiritual bridge that allows us to tap into God’s purpose for our lives.  His word daily is food to our souls and nourishment for our bodies.

Next, God doesn’t want us to compromise.  We must stand strong, and we cannot compromise our well-being in this season.  Stay focus; stay mentally healthy; stress-free, and guilt-free. I must be honest; I use to compromise myself for the sake of fitting in with others.  But as I continually grow in Christ, God reminds me to stand on His word as a guide for my life as noted in Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV) where it is written that God has a plan for our lives.  It’s not to harm us, but these plans are to prosper us so that we’ll have hope as He guides and directs us into our future.  Therefore, we must stop compromising our peace.  Remember, God doesn’t function in dysfunction.  He’s a man of order. That’s why it’s important that we build a relationship with God and that we converse with Him daily as we “Command Our Mornings.”

Then, God wants us to trust HIM!!!  I believe that God’s building our FAITH in this season.  He’s building our faith with various test and trials.  Through these various test and trails, God is causing us to exercise our faith and depend totally on him.  For it is written in Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV), “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” 

Finally, God’s working a miracle in our lives.  Let’s stay strong and not sway from God when situations start to look weary.  Remember, God is watching during the test; he’s just quiet as He conducts an evaluation of our hearts and reactions to see if we’re walking by “faith” or walking by “sight”.

Sincerely,

~ShameNoMore

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Thank You Lord for a Fresh Wind

Fresh Wind

Dear Hurt,

I’ve known you for quite some time.  At one point, I even tried to befriend you.  What’s crazy— is that I’ve felt how you’ve invaded my space.  I’ve seen how you’ve hurt people close to me, and I’ve even inhaled the remnants of your scent that you’ve left lingering behind on numerous occasions.  I’ve tried countless times to evict you, but oddly enough, you’ve crept through the smallest cracks buried deeply within the crevices of my bleeding heart.

I fondly remember the first time you cut me deeply. I was young, barely in my teens when you showed up making promises of befriending me…protecting me…and soothing me as a teen mom.  For years, I’ve tried to escape the poisonous venom that your bite marks left behind, but just like a snake, you slithered your way back into my life with no regard for good will.

But then again, I thank God for a fresh wind, another chance to stand— a renewal of energy to fight and not suffer in silence or shame.  No longer will the numbness, lustful sensation, or the overwhelming fear to doubt God’s purpose for my life abort my will to reposition myself firmly or reap the benefits that He’s spoken over my life.  I know that God  has destined greatness for my life.  And as a worshiper, I must only believe.

I hope you can forgive me, but the time has come where I will no longer live in SHAME because of you.   When I look in the mirror, all I see are the secret lies you’ve told me that you’ve whispered faintly in my ear.   I’ve deleted those files titled “Lies”, and I’ve pressed the button that reads ‘Empty Recycle Bin’ too just in case I have the urge to retrieve you.

Goodbye and Good Riddance,

A Second Wind…ShameNoMore

Dear Future

My Friend,

I’m looking forward to my future.  Are you?  2015 is just around the corner and I can’t wait for God to reposition me and you…very soon.  God’s got something great in store for us.  Get ready.  Get excited.  Expect the unexpected.

Remember, change can be hard, but I feel like this time around for all of us who has weathered the storm, God’s on the verge of blessing us big time.  Prepare your heart to receive this blessing.  It’s going to be big, different, and may even be a bit overwhelming.  Just know, God’s in control— so get ready to receive the blessing(s) that’s about to flow into your life.

Action Plan

1#: Put God first.

2#: Pray.

3#: Show gratitude.

4#: Brace yourself for change.

5#: Be flexible.

6#: Live in the moment.

Dear Future

Sign,

Excited About My Change…ShameNoMore

Be Who God Has Called You to Be

Hey,

I know it’s been a while since my last post. But during my season of growth, I’ve learned that I can no longer afford to be who people want me to be, but I must continue to grow into the person that God has called me to be. And with that change, some people may decide to walk away…while others choose to help embrace my change.

Either way, I’m fine with the new me.  The wiser I become, the more I learn that I can no longer wear a MASK where I pretend daily to make others feel comfortable. I’ve been gifted with a calling. And that calling is to teach, speak, coach and help others to become Shame No More.

Lessons Learned

Life Lesson #1: I must walk in my truth.

Life Lesson #2: I must continuously shed my old skin.

Life Lesson #3: I must wear my new skin without SHAME.

Life Lesson #4: I must embrace the new me/transition fully.

Sign, I’m Back…ShameNoMore Be Who God

From Teen Mom to Doctoral Degree

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Good evening,

Even though I’ve graduated two years ago with my doctorate, I still have people ask me how I did it. Leslie, how did you graduate high school at sixteen? How did you succeed as a teen mom? What made you different than other teenage mothers? It never ceases to amaze me the number of people who want to know my recipe for success. For those of you who don’t know, I was a sixteen year old teen mom; yet, I found a way to graduate high school early with a diploma. I come from a single family of six. My father was killed in a car accident by a drunken driver. My mom, in her early thirties, was severally disabled from the same accident.

I didn’t set out to be a teen mom, but in life, sometimes we tend to look for love in all the wrong places as young girls. I use to be ashamed of this story, but now I embrace the story that has shaped me into the woman that I am today. I speak to other young women daily about completing high school and completing some type of technical or four year degree program. I tell them that education is the cornerstone to securing freedom from poverty. I’ve heard so many times that it’s hard to complete school as a single teen mom or single adult mother. I know, but it can be done. As a former teen mom myself, and a young divorcee, I usually ask, “How bad do you want out of your situation?”

I remember working as a maid in Myrtle Beach, South Carolina cleaning hotel rooms. Many people from my rural community worked as a maid to provide for their families. I never wanted to be a maid, but it was honest work for an honest paycheck. It was hard work, but one hot summer day, I decided that I would never drop out of college and become a maid full-time like so many folk from my rural community. I needed more; I wanted more. From that day forward, my life changed forever.

Completing school as a teen mom or single adult mother is never an easy task. So, here are several rules for turning your SETBACK into a SETUP for success. I’ve listed SIX key pointers below:
1. I never allowed other people to write the ending to my story.
2. I never gave up on myself; I believed in myself when other people didn’t.
3. I realized my potential and self-worth early-on.
4. I created a short-term and a long-term plan that was conducive for me and my baby.
5. I hung around people that were successful, and I learned what made them successful and applied it to my life.
6. I BELIEVED in the power of GOD.

Use the next six months for change,
ShameNoMore

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S.H.A.M.E.: Telephone Numbers to God

Hello S.H.A.M.E. family,

It’s been a long time since my last post.  However, as I was cleaning out my saved files tonight, I ran across this list of scriptures.  It warmed my heart immensely because I needed several of these scriptures like yesterday. 🙂  I can’t remember who sent these to me, or where I may have obtained them, but I do KNOW that it can be applied to many of our lives currently.  If you can’t use these, please  forward to someone who can.

Emergency Telephone Numbers

These are more effective than 911. Call when . . .

You are sad, phone………………………………………………………… John 14

You have sinned, phone………………………………………………………… Psalm 51

You are facing danger, phone………………………………………………………… Psalm 91

People have failed you, phone………………………………………………………… Psalm 27

It feels as though God is far from you, phone………………………………………….. Psalm 139

Your faith needs stimulation, phone……………………………………………………… Hebrews 11

You are alone and scared, phone………………………………………………………… Psalm 23

You are worried, phone………………………………………………………… Matthew 8:19–34

You are hurt and critical, phone…………………………………………………….. 1 Corinthians 13

You wonder about Christianity, phone ………………………………….. 2 Corinthians 5:15-18

You feel like an outcast, phone……………………………………………………… Romans 8:31-39

You are seeking peace, phone…………………………………………………….. Matthew 11:25-30

It feels as if the world is bigger than God, phone……………………………………….. Psalm 90

You need Christ like insurance, phone…………………………………………….. Romans 8:1-30

You are leaving home for a trip, phone……………………………………………………. Psalm 121

You are praying for yourself, phone………………………………………………………… Psalm 87

You require courage for a task, phone………………………………………………………. Joshua 1

Inflation’s and investments are hogging your thoughts, phone…………… Mark 10:17-31

You are depressive, phone………………………………………………………… Psalm 27

Your bank account is empty, phone………………………………………………………… Psalm 37

You lose faith in mankind, phone…………………………………………………….. Corinthians 13

It looks like people are unfriendly, phone……………………………………………………. John 15

You are losing hope, phone………………………………………………………… Psalm 126

You feel the world is small compared to you, phone…………………………………… Psalm 19

You want to carry fruit, phone………………………………………………………… John 15

Paul’s secret for happiness, phone……………………………………………….. Colossians 3:12-17

With big opportunity/discovery, phone…………………………………………………….. Isaiah 55

To get along with other people, phone……………………………………………………. Romans 12

ALTERNATE NUMBERS

For dealing with fear, call………………………………………………………… Psalm 3:47

For security, call………………………………………………………… Psalm 121:3

For assurance, call………………………………………………………… Mark 8:35

For reassurance, call………………………………………………………… Psalm 145:18

All of these numbers may be phoned directly

No Operator assistance is necessary

All lines to Heaven are available 24 hours a day

FEED YOUR FAITH AND DOUBT WILL STARVE TO DEATH

(Author Unknown) -ShameNoMore

MAKE YOUR MARK FRIDAY: Let’s Move!

Proverbs 22:9 says, “The generous will themselves be blessed, for they share their food with the poor.” (NIV)

Hello Ladies,

Today is “MAKE YOUR MARK” Friday.  As a woman after God’s own heart, how do you plan to make your mark today?  As women, it’s imperative that we grow in helping and saving others.  Philippians 2:4 says beautifully, “not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others” (NIV) is a great way in which we should live and govern  our lives.

For example, Esther in the Bible was an orphaned, but she never allowed her circumstances to yield her growth in helping others.  And while she waited, she took the time to hone her skills.  Esther wasn’t a woman seeking wealth, but she was a woman looking for a greater purpose in life.  Therefore, how do you plan to MARK this day as your day of purpose?

During Esther’s time, it was not permissible to go before the King and make your petition known, but Esther had a TRUE purpose that didn’t contain FEAR.  Her purpose was bigger than her life.  It was to save her people.   In Luke 6:38 it affirms, “Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”(NIV)  Today is Friday, it’s the end of the work week and many of us are gearing up for a weekend of fun.  However, before you cutout to enjoy your family and friends, or just to relax, think about ONE person that needs your help.  Who can you save today no matter how big or small?

So I’m planting a seed of ACTION, are you a woman of faith and courage?  Like Esther, who has God PLANTED in your HEART to help?  Ladies, Esther had a watchful spirit.  This spirit was used to determine the time that she needed to take ACTION.  Today is your time and season, so remain watchful and make your move TODAY!

Continue to have a MAKE YOUR MARK Friday, July 13, 2012

~Shamenomore

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