Stay Calm

Be Still

God’s word in Matthew 11:28-30 declares, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”(NIV) Wow! Living in a season of frustration is strong enough to break a camel’s back.  But as you whether the storm, do not allow the spirit of frustration to steal your love, peace, happiness or joy. It’s not God’s plan for you to feel an overwhelming sense of frustration daily.  Believe it or not, God doesn’t want your heart to be troubled. Instead, He wants you to smile and live happily without the burden of frustration.

God’s plan for your life is to live life and live it more abundantly. Abundant living is peaceful living. It’s living without constant distractions. Think about it; peace should provide a comfort level that surpasses all understanding. When you establish total peace, your entire life transforms.

That’s why the devil understands that frustrating you distracts you from God’s purposeful design for your life. When the enemy bombards you with frustration; you fail to live at your fullest potential. You become short-tempered, spiteful or neglectful. That’s the plan of the enemy. He wants to distract your attention from living life at its highest peek.

Let’s dig deeper! Happiness doesn’t merely exist when you’re frustrated nor does peace permeate the atmosphere. Learn to create peace. It may sound difficult at first “creating peace”, but it’s worth the try. When you embody peace, you create an atmosphere that’s inviting to you and everyone align to you. By creating this soothing comfort zone, you begin to shut out life’s negativity.

When creating a ‘frustration-free zone’, infuse the powerful practice of gratitude. By tapping into your happy place and practicing gratitude, you learn to defuse those negative energies that attempt to consume and capsize your day. Believe me, when you’re happy, everyone around you gleans from that happiness.

In an effort to rid frustration, plan to set aside time in the mornings to meditate and give thanks. You can do this by creating a ‘frustration-free zone’ in your home. Establish a playlist of calming music, affirmations, prayers, etc. Light soft, white candles. Purchase comfy, large, colorful pillows. Sit on them in a comfortable position. Breathe deeply. Close your eyes, as you inhale and exhale. Visualize positive imagines that make you smile. Create a positive energy around you. Connect with yourself on a spiritual level and give thanks.

Trust me.  You have what it takes to live life and live it more abundantly.  But in order to live life peacefully, you must learn to believe that you deserve peace everyday unapologetically.   This is your season to take back your life and walk in your authentic self.

Stay Calm not Frustrated,

ShameNoMore, XOXO
Transformation Discovery Coach

Your Transformation Starts Now-Visualize It

Be Who God

Your transformation starts right now with the renewing of your mind.  Yes.  Transformation takes time, but change can happen.   Roman 12:2 (KJV) says, “And be conformed to this word: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”  Starting today, you can live the best you. Grow from your hurt, pain, or shameful past.  Stand tall. Tell yourself that you’re beautiful.  Walk with confidence.  Breathe.

Step #1: Be honest with yourself.  You only have one life.  Today you will live.  You will not shrink behind the shadows of a beautiful friend, loquacious partner, tedious job, rambunctious child(ren) or social media.  Instead, you will work on being honest with yourself.   Ask yourself, “What do I seek to change?”  Visualize your plan.  Determine “why” this change is significant. Understand how the strategy “visualization” can help speed up your transformation process.

Step #2: Visualize your change.  Your change starts the moment you create a mental picture in your mind.  Visualization can help you gain control of your life.  Daily, you must work on visualizing your success, happiness, or peace.  Take control of your life. Transform your mind…starting now.  If you want transformation to happen in your life, visualize it “DAILY”.

Step #3: Visualize, activate, and transform your thoughts.  Locate and create a peaceful environment.  Play music that’s calming if it will help you relax.  Light candles.  Close your eyes.  Breathe slowly.  Meditate.  Clear your mind.  Think about what you want to transform.  If you are seeking a new job, visualize that job.  Create positive thoughts centered around securing this new position.  See your new desk.   Imagine your new office.  Visualize your title.  Take ownership of your success.  Expect an excellent salary.  Consider your positive influence on others.  Can’t you see your success?!

You are changing for the better.  Don’t compromise.  Everything you’ve been through has prepared you for this moment. You are stronger than ever.  You have the tenacity to live the best you!   Take time, listen to my audio download titled: Fire Equals Transformation.  Remember, the moment you decide to transform your mind– that is the moment you will change your condition.

Your transformation starts now,

ShameNoMore

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Release, Relief, or Relive

God has a super master plan for your life.  Don’t remain stuck in a rut because you’re weighed down with guilt or shame.  Instead, find the power to RELEASE those negative emotions.   The struggle for inner-peace is an ongoing battle, which causes significant stress.   This negative emotion can often make you feel reclusive, agitated or aloof.

But as you prepare for the next four days to welcome the month of February, think positively.   Take a moment and reflect.  Ponder how you can invite healing and restoration into your life by releasing pent up issues from your past.  The suppressing of pent up frustration, from past issues, can hinder the positive progression in your life.  Remember, God wants you to live an active life where you’re happy daily—not fighting depression, low self-esteem, guilt or shame.

Step #1: Learn ‘how-to’ positively release your ‘pent up’ issues.  You must RELEASE your GUILT or SHAME.  Let it go.  Cast your worries unto the Lord.  For Philippians 4:13 (KJV) reminds us “I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.”  Christ will give you the power to overcome every affliction or battle that’s hindering the progression of positive growth in your life.  For example, you can implement the following strategies weekly: pray, meditate, or journal.   Just these three simple strategies alone can evoke peace and balance in your life.  Remember, you are a child of God.  God doesn’t want to see you struggle.  Don’t allow GUILT or SHAME to hinder the blessings that God destined for you in 2015.

Step #2: Find relief in this season.  The longer you carry those feelings of guilt or shame around, the longer you’ll battle with those ‘pent up feelings’.  Do yourself a favor.  Find some RELIEF.   As a Christian, your peace is everything.  When you’re seeking deliverance and “RELIEF” in your life, start with some simple steps:

  • accept the “problem” at face value
  • receive your part in the “problem”
  • forgive completely
  • forgive yourself wholeheartedly
  • bury the issue

In life, finding RELIEF is an active strategy that will help you unwind in a healthy manner.   I’ve listed several strategies above, but the primary strategy is keeping calm and accepting the “problem” at face value.  For some people, it’s difficult to accept the truth because the truth hurts.  If you’re feeling pain, then it means that something is wrong.  Accept your part in the problem, find a solution to alleviate your pain…like forgiving the person(s) entirely, and then forgive yourself wholly, and bury the issue for good.   Listen; don’t relieve the pain temporarily but permanently.

Step #3: Release the issue, find relief, or relive the test.  When you’re suffering intensely with guilt or shame, oppressive battles within your mind can consume you.  Don’t keep reliving a life of GUILT or SHAME.  It steals your peace.   That’s why it’s time to let go and let God heal all the broken pieces in this season.  Let me suggest two simple strategies.

Strategy #1:

Write a letter.  Address it… (Dear Hurt, Dear Pain, Dear Guilt, etc.).   You get the picture.  List every issue, hurt, guilt, shame, etc., which has stolen your joy and peace.   Write down how and why it’s kept you captive for years.  Now, tell the “issue” or “problem” why it will NO longer keep you hostage.   Seal the letter.  Then, locate a ‘safe’ place and burn it.

As your letter burns, walk away slowly without looking back…all the while repeating, “I AM NOT MY PAST.  I WILL NO LONGER ALLOW THIS GUILT, HURT, or SHAME to consume me or steal my peace.”  Do not look back, or you’ll risk the burden of reconnecting with your problem.  Your life is much too valuable for that.

Strategy #2:

Listen to my awesome FREE audio download titled: Release, Relief, or Relive.   Share it, and I hope this audio minister to your heart.

Please freely “SHARE” this word.  Remember, Psalm 55:22 says, “Cast they burden upon the Lord, and he shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be moved.”  You got this…

Praying for you always, XOXO

Leslie E. Brown/ShameNoMore™

Transformation Discovery Coach

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Your Miracle Is Right Around the Corner

Around the corner

When I woke up this morning, I started to meditate.  I heard the small voice of God speaking. It’s amazing how God’s presence can change our perspective and change our entire day.  Not to get too personal, but as I was preparing breakfast this morning, I felt the visitation of God.  It was very strong.

First, God wants us to “COMMAND” our mornings. Take time to pray, meditate, exercise, journal, or self-reflect.  These strategies can help “set” the temperament for our entire day.  Daily, it’s imperative that we honor God by carving out time to converse with Him. When we fail to command our mornings by honoring God, distractions from the enemy can seep into our spirit causing physical and spiritual disruptions.  When we pray, we’re equipping ourselves to withstand the blows of the enemy.  Get rooted in the word when driving to work, while drinking coffee, or while sitting in bed aimlessly.  Every moment that we invite God in, we willfully build a spiritual bridge that allows us to tap into God’s purpose for our lives.  His word daily is food to our souls and nourishment for our bodies.

Next, God doesn’t want us to compromise.  We must stand strong, and we cannot compromise our well-being in this season.  Stay focus; stay mentally healthy; stress-free, and guilt-free. I must be honest; I use to compromise myself for the sake of fitting in with others.  But as I continually grow in Christ, God reminds me to stand on His word as a guide for my life as noted in Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV) where it is written that God has a plan for our lives.  It’s not to harm us, but these plans are to prosper us so that we’ll have hope as He guides and directs us into our future.  Therefore, we must stop compromising our peace.  Remember, God doesn’t function in dysfunction.  He’s a man of order. That’s why it’s important that we build a relationship with God and that we converse with Him daily as we “Command Our Mornings.”

Then, God wants us to trust HIM!!!  I believe that God’s building our FAITH in this season.  He’s building our faith with various test and trials.  Through these various test and trails, God is causing us to exercise our faith and depend totally on him.  For it is written in Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV), “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” 

Finally, God’s working a miracle in our lives.  Let’s stay strong and not sway from God when situations start to look weary.  Remember, God is watching during the test; he’s just quiet as He conducts an evaluation of our hearts and reactions to see if we’re walking by “faith” or walking by “sight”.

Sincerely,

~ShameNoMore

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Thank You Lord for a Fresh Wind

Fresh Wind

Dear Hurt,

I’ve known you for quite some time.  At one point, I even tried to befriend you.  What’s crazy— is that I’ve felt how you’ve invaded my space.  I’ve seen how you’ve hurt people close to me, and I’ve even inhaled the remnants of your scent that you’ve left lingering behind on numerous occasions.  I’ve tried countless times to evict you, but oddly enough, you’ve crept through the smallest cracks buried deeply within the crevices of my bleeding heart.

I fondly remember the first time you cut me deeply. I was young, barely in my teens when you showed up making promises of befriending me…protecting me…and soothing me as a teen mom.  For years, I’ve tried to escape the poisonous venom that your bite marks left behind, but just like a snake, you slithered your way back into my life with no regard for good will.

But then again, I thank God for a fresh wind, another chance to stand— a renewal of energy to fight and not suffer in silence or shame.  No longer will the numbness, lustful sensation, or the overwhelming fear to doubt God’s purpose for my life abort my will to reposition myself firmly or reap the benefits that He’s spoken over my life.  I know that God  has destined greatness for my life.  And as a worshiper, I must only believe.

I hope you can forgive me, but the time has come where I will no longer live in SHAME because of you.   When I look in the mirror, all I see are the secret lies you’ve told me that you’ve whispered faintly in my ear.   I’ve deleted those files titled “Lies”, and I’ve pressed the button that reads ‘Empty Recycle Bin’ too just in case I have the urge to retrieve you.

Goodbye and Good Riddance,

A Second Wind…ShameNoMore

Get in Position

Hey You,

Are you in position to receive the bounty of favor that God wants to release over your life?  If not, get in position.  I believe that you’re next in line for a miracle.  Remember, Acts 10:34 says, ” Then Peter opened his mouth, and said, Of a truth I perceive that God is no respecter of persons.” (KJV)

That’s right!  If God saw fit to rain down favor on a family member, co-worker, friend, etc., he can do the same for you.  The question is…do you believe?  How strong is your faith?

Abundance

Sign,

I Believe…ShameNoMore

Be Who God Has Called You to Be

Hey,

I know it’s been a while since my last post. But during my season of growth, I’ve learned that I can no longer afford to be who people want me to be, but I must continue to grow into the person that God has called me to be. And with that change, some people may decide to walk away…while others choose to help embrace my change.

Either way, I’m fine with the new me.  The wiser I become, the more I learn that I can no longer wear a MASK where I pretend daily to make others feel comfortable. I’ve been gifted with a calling. And that calling is to teach, speak, coach and help others to become Shame No More.

Lessons Learned

Life Lesson #1: I must walk in my truth.

Life Lesson #2: I must continuously shed my old skin.

Life Lesson #3: I must wear my new skin without SHAME.

Life Lesson #4: I must embrace the new me/transition fully.

Sign, I’m Back…ShameNoMore Be Who God

Failure Is Not an Option: S.H.A.M.E.

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Good Morning,

2 Timothy 1:7 says, “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” (KJV)  These words rung deeply in my spirit this morning as I was responding to several e-mails.  I just felt that someone needed to hear these words this morning including myself.  As Sisters Healing Against Mental Emotions (S.H.A.M.E.), it’s important that we understand the word FEAR and the paralyses that it can have over our lives.  Fear can deplete us; demobilize us, of even hinder our growth causing SHAME.

Therefore, as Christian sisters, we cannot allow the enemy to destroy us any longer.  Some of us have missed out on years of happiness because we’ve given into the enemy.  On the other hand, some of us have accepted our doom and emotionally we have died alone.  Then, others of us have decided that we’re not worth living because no one loves us.  Wow!  This is just what the enemy expected us to do…GIVE UP!

As sisters healing from various emotions, we must understand the words that Numbers 23:19 reveals, “God is not human, that he should lie, not a human being, that he should change his mind. Does he speak and then not act? Does he promise and not fulfill?” (NIV).  It’s imperative that we understand who our father is.  He’s a great MAN that sees, knows, and hears everything.  Just because He doesn’t MOVE when we think He should move doesn’t mean that He doesn’t care about our life issues.

Life is a test.  When attending an institution of learning, we should understand that we must be fully prepared to pass the examinations that are given to us.  So, why would life be any differently?  Prepare, study, and put on our Armor of God.  Remember, Psalm 34:19 states, “The righteous person may have many troubles, but the Lord delivers him from them all” (NIV).  As we continue upon our journeys, understand that every issue has its season, time, and place in our lives, but the mannerisms in which we handle our issues are solely up to us.  Remember, if the devil can blindside us and make us fail our TEST then He has succeeded.  Is this what we really want?  If so, then we’ve SIMPLY failed the test.

We can’t give the devil that much credit,

~Shamenomore

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MAKE YOUR MARK FRIDAY: Let’s Move!

Proverbs 22:9 says, “The generous will themselves be blessed, for they share their food with the poor.” (NIV)

Hello Ladies,

Today is “MAKE YOUR MARK” Friday.  As a woman after God’s own heart, how do you plan to make your mark today?  As women, it’s imperative that we grow in helping and saving others.  Philippians 2:4 says beautifully, “not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others” (NIV) is a great way in which we should live and govern  our lives.

For example, Esther in the Bible was an orphaned, but she never allowed her circumstances to yield her growth in helping others.  And while she waited, she took the time to hone her skills.  Esther wasn’t a woman seeking wealth, but she was a woman looking for a greater purpose in life.  Therefore, how do you plan to MARK this day as your day of purpose?

During Esther’s time, it was not permissible to go before the King and make your petition known, but Esther had a TRUE purpose that didn’t contain FEAR.  Her purpose was bigger than her life.  It was to save her people.   In Luke 6:38 it affirms, “Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”(NIV)  Today is Friday, it’s the end of the work week and many of us are gearing up for a weekend of fun.  However, before you cutout to enjoy your family and friends, or just to relax, think about ONE person that needs your help.  Who can you save today no matter how big or small?

So I’m planting a seed of ACTION, are you a woman of faith and courage?  Like Esther, who has God PLANTED in your HEART to help?  Ladies, Esther had a watchful spirit.  This spirit was used to determine the time that she needed to take ACTION.  Today is your time and season, so remain watchful and make your move TODAY!

Continue to have a MAKE YOUR MARK Friday, July 13, 2012

~Shamenomore

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